Eat Out.. the basics

There is very little mystery about a penis, its self explanatory and any woman with common sense and a little spit can figure out how to give head... or so I've been told.. but a woman's body is a little more complex and its not quite as easy for men to provide GOOD HEAD..

Oral sex performed on a female is known as cunnilingus and has been around for many years.  It was once thought of as a taboo act but has now become more popular and mainstream.

First let me begin by explaining that there are two types of women. There's the type that love getting head, and they type that never got good head.  The reason i say this is because if done correctly, whats not to love? 

In order to provide good head, you need to know the ins and outs of female anatomy.  Because men are very visual thinkers, I have a diagram. Basically you need to find the clitoris.  If you cant find her clit, please stop reading.. there's no help for you.

First, here are my warnings... I am not a man, this is written from the prospective of a woman.  I am speaking from personal experience, and a collaboration or first hand testimonies and actual research. This is in no way directed toward anyone or intended to offend anyone.

Here are my tips and suggestions:

1. Did you know that 80% of women cannot achieve an orgasm during sex unless they are on top? Those numbers don't surprise me at all because for most women, its all about the CLIT, so my first piece of advice is to pay most of your attention to that area. 
2. Start of slowly, the clitoris is a very sensitive area with a lot of nerve endings, so don't go burying your face in it like its a peach, start with your hands, survey the area and then begin licking gently. After a few minutes, she will be warmed up enough for you to dig in.
3. Leave your tongue and jaw soft and relaxed to avoid cramping, the last thing you need is to tire yourself out before she has even realized whats happening.
4. Don't neglect the rest of her body. Just because you are focusing on one area, it doesn't mean you should neglect the rest of her.  Lick all the surrounding areas and keep this in mind, Jane Austen once said "A good lovers hands never stop moving", foreplay plays a huge part in this and its important to remember that you are pleasing her whole body. Her thighs, breasts, stomach, every part of her body is waiting to be touched.
5. Its okay to enter the vagina with your tongue, its a sensitive area and it feels good on some women, but don't try to initiate tongue intercourse, the chances of providing her any kind of mind blowing pleasure out of that are slim to none. Its a great way to mix it up and add a little diversity but please don't over do it.  There's nothing worse than laying there while someone tried to literally have sex with their tongue... seriously... its awful...

6. Don't use the ABC technique.. its a popular misconception and i have heard men swear by it, but I just think its too much of a distraction.. there shouldn't be a rigid method, you should be enjoying this and so should your partner. 
7.  Don't let it get boring, use licking, sucking, and even soft nibbling through your lips to keep it exciting and add variety. Enjoy it and have fun with it and make sure she knows that your enjoying it every step of the way, be vocal, tell her she tastes great. 
8. Feel free to use your hands. Using your hands is not a bad idea, just don't be to rough, or try to penetrate her until she is well lubricated.  Remember this is not all about penetration, keep it minimal and see if she is enjoying it, its different for all women.
9. Keep a steady pace, women like rhythmical stimulation. It doesn't have to be really fast, just constant.  Follow her body and you will pick up on the subtle movement of her body. 
10. My last main tip is to play around with positions. The basic missionary style position works great but feel free to play around, everyone knows about the good ole 69, but maybe have her on all fours like you would doggie style, or lay back and have her sit over you, find what works good for you and experiment to find what you both enjoy and are comfortable with.

Now on this topic, I have tons more to say but as always, I don't want to end up writing a novel here... so what are your thoughts?

Sexually Enhancing Beverages?

Hello Readers! Today I want to talk about a new trend of designer beverages, and more specifically beverages that claim to spice up your sex life. 

Over the years the energy drink trend has skyrocketed and everyone is looking to get results from a can, not so different from housewives of the 70's, we all want instant gratification, we can energy, focus, memory, and now Passion. 

Truth be told, I was first told about this drink from a friend. She mentioned using it and said she didn't really feel like it helped her in bed but she said it made her male counterpart really horny. It peaked my interest, mainly because I was curious about what the ingredients were.

The Pur3x Designer Beverage company has a few other products out but its newest and most popular is PASSION, and energy drink that is designed to enhance intimacy and boost libido. This drink is said to contain some of the most powerful herbal sexual stimulants available, including horny goat weed, muiria puama, yohimbe bark extract, and catuaba bark extract.

"PUR3X Passion is low in sugar, low in calories and high in taste and high in results. You can drink Passion daily to improve overall performance and drink it 30-45 minutes before sexual activity." - TwistedParties.com

 As if all of that info wasn't enough, my friend gave me two cans.. lol
They have been sitting on my desk for about 2 weeks and I have yet to try them... but I guarantee that once I do, I will be posting an updated blog.. Now has anyone tried this before? I suppose this is just like using an aphrodisiac or some other "mood enhancing" type of thing, but is this going up the road to Viagra, or will it just set the mood? Who knows...

Friendship after Sex... is it possible?

Hello Everyone, In this post I would like to address the raising popularity of Causal Sex and how it effects friendships.  Friends with Benefits is a term that I hear more and more frequently and it makes me wonder, what do you do with that friend once the benefits are gone (meaning once you are bored, or someone ends the agreement)?

I happen to believe in any sexual relationship, one of two things end up happening...

1. Someone develops feelings
2. Someone gets bored

So in the instance of "friends" with benefits, when one of those things happens, the situation changes entirely.  I have witnessed people in this sort of agreement fall in love with each other and have it turn into a great stable relationship, and that's a beautiful thing, being friends and then lovers is how some of the best love stories begin, but in the latter scenario where someone loses interest in the other person, does that mean that friendship is forever lost?

I don't think its possible to ever be "just friends" with someone that you were sexually involved with.  I think that once that line has been crossed the friendship has been tainted and every visit, conversation, or experience after that moment will always be biased and different than any other innocent friendship. Even if both parties agree to end the sexual relationship, they will always find themselves thinking about that experience, sizing up the other persons future romantic prospects etc...

What are your thoughts?

Foreplay

Foreplay is a MUST in sex. It prepares the body to enjoy sexual experiences, and gives each partner a much needed warm up time to get in the mood for something memorable and exciting.
It's always good to take the initiation in sexual matters rather than waiting for your partner to do the same.

1. Get your partner prepared ahead of time; tell them how much you are waiting to just grab them and touch them and do the things you want to do. Just the thoughts will excite your partner!
The stage needs to be set for a fantastic evening. (Or morning, in some cases.) Stimulate all of the senses. Fantasize about sexy scenes, and build your anticipation and creativity.

2. Take a shower, or nice bubble bath (my preference). Cleanliness leads to good sexual performance. A shower builds up your senses, loosens muscles, and naturally increases blood flow which makes you more receptive to touch.

3. Studies show that during foreplay, more attention is given to the face and and upper abdomen. So start at the bottom instead. Try out toes, legs, or inner thighs. Stroking and massaging the inner and outer thigh increases blood flow to the genitals, which of course helps for a better orgasm.

4. Kiss in a very subtle manner, and not just on the lips. Some extremely sensitive and sensual areas are the earlobes, the back of the neck, and the happy trail. This will lead to kisses on some very erotic areas. :)

Kissing and rubbing your bodies is a great start, and an even better combination. You could use chocolate and other aphrodisiacs. The important thing to remember is that foreplay should lead to heightened arousal for sex. Therefore, it should be slow and gradual, completely exploring all of the erogenous zones.

Welcome JonesieLuv!! A L0veBites Guest Blogger!

Hello Everyone!!

I would like to introduce and welcome my dear friend JonesieLuv to L0veBites!! Since I began blogging she is not only a loyal reader but she encouraged and supported me every step of the way! She always has interesting opinions on things and great advice!

I cant wait to read her future posts and I hope you feel the same way too!

Jealousy.... is it ever a good thing?

Hello Everyone!! I am back from my little vacation and I know you all cant wait for today's post.  I had a specific post in mind, but I decided to postpone it because a loyal reader sent me a question, so my readers come first!

"Is it ok to want my girlfriend to feel a little jealous?"

Now before I begin, let me say this yet again, I am not a professional and all of my posts are based SOLELY on my personal opinion... ok, here goes...

I think a little jealousy is a good thing in any relationship, and this is based on my enjoying the feeling i get in a relationship when there is a tiny hint of jealousy.  In long term relationships we all get comfortable, and we expect our partners to love us for who we are, and trust us.  Little by little we worry less and less about the competition, and more and more about kids, bills, and making each other happy as a whole, and worry less about who else is out there. THIS IS GREAT, and its what relationships are all about, but we often forget about that thrill we feel when there's a little innocent jealousy.  Its just the way imitation is the best from of flattery, jealousy in very small doses is a very sweet form of admiration.  When we feel a little jealous, we pull ourselves back out of that comfort zone, we worry a tiny bit, we put that little extra effort into the way we look, the meal we prepare, we kiss a little longer, we hug a little tighter... and the best part is, its like medicine, a little goes a long way.  Use it wisely and the results can be great. 

Here are ways that I've used it with success:

• When someone flirts with me, I choose to TELL my partner all about it
• Don't feel badly about being flattered, when someone complements me, i smile, blush and even giggle, its OKAY..
• I elect NOT to hide innocent male acquaintances, its okay to have friends of the opposite sex, and its important for your partner to see you interact with other men/women.  That way you don't become some extension of himself that never speaks to another man, you are a woman and men interact with you in front of him, and even when he is not around.

In this post, I am not telling anyone to go out and try to make their partner jealous, I'm just saying that i happen to believe that a little jealousy can be healthy. 

I cant wait to hear everyone's thoughts on this!

Going On Vacation

Hello Everyone!! Just a little FYI, I am going on Vacation for a few days! I will be taking my little Niece to DISNEY!! It is her first time and she is thrilled and I am pretty excited too..  I will return later this week and I guarantee that I will have a fantastic post for you when I return!!

My 3 biggest flirting tips (For the Ladies)

So today I was looking at one of my favorite sites sosuave.com and I read an article called 3 Things you must do when talking to women, in this article they suggest that you appear curious, express admiration, and convince her that you are listening to her.  Now, I really liked this article, mainly because I want a man to do that when speaking to me..  This inspired me to share my 3 flirting dating tips:

• Be Visual: I think when speaking to a man, any man, its important to be descriptive. Men like to see things (no big surprise there).  I know that this sounds like a lot of work, but remember, descriptive can be VERY sexy..
• Let your body language speak: Sometimes words are just words, but body language speaks volumes.  Lots of people are good at reading body language, but the majority has difficulty picking up on this, but the best part is that the person that you are speaking to will subliminally pick up your vibe. (Ex. You can say "Its so warm in here", or you can caress your neck and mention the warmth of the room..) Basically, your body language sends out HUGE non-verbal signs and can make the different between looking like a prude or seeming welcoming. 
• Don't be afraid to be sexy: So many women steer clear of being too sexy because they don't want to seem like a slut, but there is something VERY sexy about a man or woman who knows what they want and isn't afraid to share it.  Obviously you don't want to seem perverted or desperate, but you should be yourself and be real.  There is nothing wrong with being confident and proud of your sexuality and stating your likes and dislikes. Not only will you blow him away with your confidence but you're going to leave him with sex on the brain :-)

What are your flirting do's and don'ts? I would love to hear from both the men and women on this one..