Hello Everyone, In this post I would like to address the raising popularity of Causal Sex and how it effects friendships. Friends with Benefits is a term that I hear more and more frequently and it makes me wonder, what do you do with that friend once the benefits are gone (meaning once you are bored, or someone ends the agreement)?
I happen to believe in any sexual relationship, one of two things end up happening...
- Someone develops feelings
- Someone gets bored
So in the instance of "friends" with benefits, when one of those things happens, the situation changes entirely. I have witnessed people in this sort of agreement fall in love with each other and have it turn into a great stable relationship, and that's a beautiful thing, being friends and then lovers is how some of the best love stories begin, but in the latter scenario where someone loses interest in the other person, does that mean that friendship is forever lost?
I don't think its possible to ever be "just friends" with someone that you were sexually involved with. I think that once that line has been crossed the friendship has been tainted and every visit, conversation, or experience after that moment will always be biased and different than any other innocent friendship. Even if both parties agree to end the sexual relationship, they will always find themselves thinking about that experience, sizing up the other persons future romantic prospects etc...
What are your thoughts?
Posts
