S&M... Do you like it ROUGH?

Hello Everyone,

Its been a while since I last posted I had a little writers block but I was compelled to write about Rough Sex... Ever since the song S&M came out (Rihanna), everyone seems to "feel so good being bad" and claims to like it "rough", so lets explore that a little.... 

I can honestly say that I liked it a little rough even before it was cool to like it rough.. I always found the appeal in doing something a little taboo, that sort of feeling that the pleasure is so good I need a little pain to make it real. Now S&M is very different from liking sex a little rough... There are several different types and it involves a lot more than a little hair pulling and butt slapping. 

S&M stands for Sadomachocism, a form of sexual role-play, which broadly reffers to recieving pleasure from pain or humiliation.  I know this sounds very strange but it can be broken down even further into BDSM, which is bondage and dicipline S&M, which would even encompass being tied up, or gagged during sex. 

Now here is the fun part, my Rough Sex for Dummies tips:
  • Establish a Safe Word - Often times begging and saying no, and stop are part of the pleasurable experience of "rough sex" and S&M type role playing, so a safe word insures that the "play" never gets too rough or a misunderstanding is to occur. The word should me something that you wouldnt normally use during lovemaking, something like "turtle" or "orange" works well, it should be short, and easy to remember too.
  • Remember to get consent - Rough Sex is the kind of sex that you need additional consent for.  It falls into the same category as oral, anal, and anything else that you wouldnt imagine your grandparents ever doing.  The right time to approach this would be during some playful foreplay, or maybe during a flirting session. Always remember, just because you have the green light for sex, it does not mean rough sex is okay.
  • Start Gradually -  Begin with a heavier tough, before any other rough play begins, start off my caressing a little harder, pulling his/her hair lightly, and then ease into spanking and biting. These are easy ways to determine what your partner enjoys.
  • Restraints - People often talk about wanting to be tied up, or tying up their partner but few people acutally do this and end up enjoying this... heres why... most people opt for handcuffs, and handcuffs HURT! Instead, save yourself a few bucks and use a scarf or a mens silky tie, its strong, you have it handy for spur of the moment sex, and it wont hurt like a handcuff. If you want to buy something for this specific use, then invest in some Japanese silk rope, its a strong silky rope that wont bruise or fray and it has lots of creative uses.
  • Scratching and Wax - These sort of go hand in hand because they can both easily get botched and end up hurting badly.  With dripping any melted substance I like the 3 second and blow rule. Before applying it to the skin, blow it and wait three seconds, chances are its not going to burn the skin.   With scratching, I like to save that for the climax, its not sexy to have someone scratch you during foreplay, its hard to keep it gentle like a nibble.  During climax all the blood is rushing to other areas of the body and scratching can almost express the intense feelings you are feeling, just be careful not to break the skin.
Rough Sex can be very pleasurable if done right, just remember, enjoy it, be careful and mindful of your partner, and remember your safe word ;-)

How to put a condom on with your mouth

Hello everyone!!

Lets face it, no one "likes" wearing a condom but in order to be safe and healthy, to prevent the spread of STD's and STI's and avoid unplanned pregnancy, condoms are necessary.  Here is a little trick to getting your guy to wear a condom!

I discovered this a few years ago and I have tried it a few times, let me just say, this works best with a flavored condom, I have done it with other kinds as well but some lubricants have a funny taste or leave a numbing feeling in your mouth, its my strong recommendation that you use a flavored condom when doing this.

Basically you would do this either during of before performing oral sex. Simply open the condom, place it with the rolled side facing up, in your mouth, slightly suck at the tip while using your lips and teeth to gently roll the condom down over the penis.  See the video below of an actual demonstration.



This is not only a great way to encourage your partner to wear a condom during sex and oral sex but its also pretty sexy when done correctly.

Try it ladies, and guys be sure to show this to your ladies...

How safe is your Sex?

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