Valentines Day, the LoveBites Way!

As we venture into the month of February everywhere you go its all about Valentines Day.... Now I won't lie, its sweet to celebrate and shower each other with affection during this time, but I am one of those people who thinks that you should appreciate the person you love everyday... however, I do still celebrate V-DAY!

Now recently many male friends of mine have been asking me what to get their girlfriends for Valentines Day so I decided to blog about it...

Firstly, suggesting a great gift is going to be hard because everyone is so different, and you want to get something that she will love! I am going to break down my suggestions by the length of time dating... its just easier that way!

1-6 Months

At this point the relationship is still very new, often times you haven't said the L-word yet but its your first Valentines Day together and you don't want to be cheezy.  In my opinion most guys go the very predictable and safe route and get flowers, a card, candy, or a teddy bear.  While all of that is sweet, unless your girl is a pre-teen, none of it is memorable. This is your chance to wow her and to make her remember this Valentines Day, whether you are together or not. 

• Plan a couples activity: This means doing something together, preferably something that you have never done. Go to the spa, go ice skating, plan a picnic, go on a local sight seeing tour in your city, take a pottery class, visit a museum or the zoo. Its your chance to do something she will not expect.

6 Months-1 Year

Around now its possible that you have said the L-Word and you're having sex, this is definitely the Honeymoon phase and you should know enough about your sweetie to get her something that will be special.   She is going to probably expect the usual, its still your first V-Day together and you still want to make an impact but you also want to pull on her heart strings a bit by wowing her with how well you know her, and expressing that you intend to have a future together. 

• Give the gift that keeps on giving.  This shows that you know what she likes and you want to give her something to not only make her smile today but again in the future.  You can buy her something she needs or wants, like an iPod loaded with "your songs", an E-reader if she likes to read, make her a gift basket of wine and snacks for a movie night in the future, buy a package of dance classes for you both, get two open tickets for a trip, buy her tickets to see a show in a few weeks, make her a great dinner and tell her that she owes you one.  These are all ideas that point into the future.

1-3 Years

If you have been together this long then this should be a little easier, you have probably spent a few V-days together so you might know what she likes and dislikes by now.  Now you need to show her that even now, after a few years, that she is still sexy. You need to ignite the spark!

• Buy her some sexy lingerie, plan a romantic evening, get a "toy" for you both to play with, take her out to dinner to a Fondue Restaurant like the Melting Pot, where you can feed each other something sinful and gooey! Offer her a massage, take her out dancing, do whatever you think will make her feel like the sexy woman you know she is.

If you are living together or moving in

This can be at any time in the relationship.  Once you are thinking about or already are living together then you can buy her something special for your home.  I know people always say not to get her something for the house but this is different. You are not going to buy a blender or a vacuum, you are going to buy something that will make her smile every time she even looks at it.

• You can make her some art, get a canvas and some paint and get creative, when she sees this she will always remember how unexpected that gift was.
• Frame a memento, something she might not expect like some old movie stubs, a printed out movie sign from the first movie you ever saw together, the menu from the first dinner out, something special and unique to the both of you.

• Buy a his and her item. I love this idea, there are his and her robes, aprons, tooth brushes, coffee cups, pillow cases (which I love). Just something special that says "you are my other half".
• Get a pet.  This is a touchy suggestion because this is something that you both should have discussed before but if you have been talking about it, its a great time to finally do it! Don't run out and buy a dog but maybe buy her a set of cute doggie bowls and a leash, maybe a dog t-shirt for the pup, and on valentines day make it a date to adopt your new family member.

There's are just a few ideas, and of course they are all generic, as the man you will need to tailor your date and gift to the likes of the lady in your life.  Women love flowers, we love the cards and the candy, and not to mention Jewelry, those are all usually safe bets but my suggestions are a little more unique and definitely more memorable!!

Happy Romancing to Everyone!!

Anal Sex, yay or nay?

Do you "do" anal? - Every woman has probably been asked this question many times, and the answers may vary depending on what is meant my "Anal". Anal sex most often refers to the sex act involving insertion of the penis into the anus of a sexual partner. The term anal sex can also sometimes include other sexual acts involving the anus, not limited to but including insertion of toys or fingers into the body. In the past anal sex was believed to be a purely homosexual act but in 2009 a study of American college undergraduates revealed that one in four heterosexual individuals admitted to having anal sex.

Though anal sex is pleasurable for many people most find it very painful. Most women rate the practice among their least favorite sexual activities because of the pain or discomfort involved. Psychological factors, as well as technique, were found to play a role in the experience of pain during anal sex.

Regardless of the pain factor, Anal sex is needless to say the most popular of sexual taboos. While many people are at the very least curious enough to try it, few go about it the right way and/or have a negative experience, and never do it again. Its easy to see why people are so intrigued about this act. Men like the idea of tightness and friction, and both partners can appreciate the allure of doing something naughty, unique and venturing into an unknown area together. 

If you or your partner fall into the category of people who have only tried anal sex once and then swore it off for life it is probably because you had a painful experience, or have heard enough horror stories to last you a lifetime.  The anus is nerve-packed and with the right kind of stimulation, anal play can feel amazing. Unfortunately, the same cluster of nerves responsible for the pleasure can cause great pain. When having anal sex you must show your concern for each others pleasure and comfort.

Here are some tips, summarized from Askmen.com:

1. She needs to be relaxed and prepared; anal sex is not suited for a quickie. The anus will tighten if she is nervous, which will make it hard for you to get in and more painful for her.

2.You probably already know what really turns her on, so whether it’s a bubble bath and a massage or hardcore porn and costumes, have your tools at the ready. Getting her aroused is of the utmost importance.

3. Use foreplay and make sure she is horny and very into it before you even think about touching her butt, take time and start slowly, using your mouth and fingers to stimulate her before putting your penis anywhere near her. You might even want to just use smaller toys and your fingers until she gets used to the idea of having something inside that particular opening.

4. Use lube -- lots of lube. Unlike the vaginal opening, the anus does not create its own lubrication; you’ll need to use plenty of artificial wetness to ensure a smooth ride.
5. Always use a condom for anal sex. Because of the increased chances of small tears in the anal cavity during anal sex, it is easier to transmit several sexually transmitted diseases and infections, including HIV and hepatitis C.

6. Be gentle and communicate every step of the way. Its important to do so, if not you may hurt her.

7. DO NOT try to imitate what you see in PORN. Porn stars are often stretched out or too damn high to understand the pain that they are feeling.  The often use desensitizing products as well to numb the pain, which is the body's way of telling you that something is wrong. Take it slow and remember that it should be pleasurable for both partners.

I found AskMen.com EXTREMELY useful when writing this post, to read more here's the link : AskMen.com - Anal Sex

What's a cock ring?

Happy Monday Everyone (yeah not really, I know)...

Today's post was a question is pretty interesting and was sent in my an anonymous reader:

What exactly is a cock ring, and what does it do?

Basically a cock ring is a sexual device made of either silicone, leather, rubber, or metal that fits snugly around the base of the penis and sometimes the scrotum and creates a trap to enhance sexual pleasure and cause stronger, harder erections.  These can be worn to prolong an erection and also to treat erectile dysfunction.  The come in a variety of designs and sizes, so theres guaranteed to be a cock ring for everyone. 

Some cock rings even have small bullet vibrators attached to the top to serve as clitoral simulators, these are AWESOME... not only will it create a long lasting erection, preventing circulation, but it will stimulate your woman till she begs you to stop... literally...   These cock rings are usually silicone or rubber and are often one size fits all because they are stretchy.  I like these because it enhances the experience for both partners and theres no size dilemma to worry about.  These are also reusable. 

What are your thoughts on this item? Have you tried this? Would you be interested in experimenting with this?

Are stuffed animals sexy?

Recently I saw an article on Yahoo about Celebs posing with stuffed animals, trying to be sexy, so with Valentines Day right around the corner, I find myself wondering, do men think this is sexy? and I wonder why?

Basically, I happen to think its sort of sexy, but we all know that a lot of the time women and men have totally different ideas about whats sexy!

Like this pic of Lindsey Lohan.. I happen to think its sort of sexy in a playful sexy way, but some people find this kinda picture offensive and even a little creepy..

What are your thoughts??

Should men Shave??

Lets face it, its 2011 and almost every woman does some sort of pubic grooming, but what about our men?

A reader emailed me and told me that she's been with her boyfriend for over a year and she always shaves and recently began waxing and he boyfriend has never shaved or even trimmed for her. She asked me if its common and how she could get him to groom a little more.

The sad truth is, many men don't feel the need to shave or trim their pubic areas.  Society has created this stereotype that women should be well groomed, whether that be shaved, waxed, or trimmed, at all times, and that men can be hairy beasts.  Personally, I think men should shave or at least trim their pubes.  I wouldn't expect a man to go get a "Brazilian" but at least try to clean up the bush if you expect me to be poking around down there.  There are some men out there that have taken a cue from all that porn they watch and have decided to shave and even use hair remover to go totally bare, which is awesome, but not every guy out there is that considerate.

My advice to the men out there is this, "If your woman shaves, waxes, etc, then be considerate and at least trim and consider shaving for her. No one wants to head south and choke themselves on a Brillo pad."

My advice to the women out there is even simpler, "Ask him to shave", chances are he never even thought about it, so before your blame him for not doing it, bring it to his attention.  You might be surprised at his willingness to please you in the sack, even if it means taking a razor to his... :-)

Contrary to Popular Belief, Older women are better in Bed... via Yahoo

Good Morning Everyone!

Interesting topic this morning! While doing my daily news feed read, I came across a article on Yahoo Shine, about the popular misconception that younger women are better sex partners.  Basically the article touched on the point that culture has a huge impact on what people tend to find sexy and western culture has an unrealistic model that young = sexy/more sexual.  More and more women of today find themselves feeding into such stereotypes and try to appear younger and feel less and less sexy as they age, when it should be the opposite. 

We are brainwashed into thinking that women in their teens and early twenties are sexually perfect, because from the evolutionary perspective men are naturally attracted to women that are the most fertile (full hips, large breasts, etc) but if you think for a moment about what makes a woman a good lover, its skill and experience. 

After reading that article I made a few phone calls and asked around to men that I know.. All seemed to agree, Older Women = Better Sex.  Older women know their bodies, and how to use them, they are more comfortable discussing sex and trying new things, and they are usually more sexually skilled over all.  One guy I asked said "When I was 17 I had sex with a 32 year old woman, and she licked my ass, and I liked it, so when I was with younger women I would ask them to, and they would be grossed out", that's just one example. Another man said "Hell yeah, older women are way better in bed, they know how to give head, they aren't afraid to swallow", and my favorite response was this one, "Older women are not only better in bed, but they don't make you feel nervous to try new things and do what comes naturally, think about when you were 18-20, are you a better lover now?" and the truth is, I am.. Years later I find myself happier with my body then I was when I was a teenager, although its not half as "perfect" and I know enough about myself to enjoy sex a lot more, and like I always say, the key to great sex is enjoying it and seeing your partner enjoy it.

What are your thoughts on this topic??

How to give GOOD head...

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Happy New Year!!

Wishing Everyone a Very Happy and Sexy New Year!!

I want to give special thanks to all of my friends who have shown me so much support over the past few months and gave me the inspiration to begin writing LoveBites!!

xoxo