Friendship after Sex... is it possible?

Hello Everyone, In this post I would like to address the raising popularity of Causal Sex and how it effects friendships.  Friends with Benefits is a term that I hear more and more frequently and it makes me wonder, what do you do with that friend once the benefits are gone (meaning once you are bored, or someone ends the agreement)?

I happen to believe in any sexual relationship, one of two things end up happening...

1. Someone develops feelings
2. Someone gets bored

So in the instance of "friends" with benefits, when one of those things happens, the situation changes entirely.  I have witnessed people in this sort of agreement fall in love with each other and have it turn into a great stable relationship, and that's a beautiful thing, being friends and then lovers is how some of the best love stories begin, but in the latter scenario where someone loses interest in the other person, does that mean that friendship is forever lost?

I don't think its possible to ever be "just friends" with someone that you were sexually involved with.  I think that once that line has been crossed the friendship has been tainted and every visit, conversation, or experience after that moment will always be biased and different than any other innocent friendship. Even if both parties agree to end the sexual relationship, they will always find themselves thinking about that experience, sizing up the other persons future romantic prospects etc...

What are your thoughts?

Foreplay

Foreplay is a MUST in sex. It prepares the body to enjoy sexual experiences, and gives each partner a much needed warm up time to get in the mood for something memorable and exciting.
It's always good to take the initiation in sexual matters rather than waiting for your partner to do the same.

1. Get your partner prepared ahead of time; tell them how much you are waiting to just grab them and touch them and do the things you want to do. Just the thoughts will excite your partner!
The stage needs to be set for a fantastic evening. (Or morning, in some cases.) Stimulate all of the senses. Fantasize about sexy scenes, and build your anticipation and creativity.

2. Take a shower, or nice bubble bath (my preference). Cleanliness leads to good sexual performance. A shower builds up your senses, loosens muscles, and naturally increases blood flow which makes you more receptive to touch.

3. Studies show that during foreplay, more attention is given to the face and and upper abdomen. So start at the bottom instead. Try out toes, legs, or inner thighs. Stroking and massaging the inner and outer thigh increases blood flow to the genitals, which of course helps for a better orgasm.

4. Kiss in a very subtle manner, and not just on the lips. Some extremely sensitive and sensual areas are the earlobes, the back of the neck, and the happy trail. This will lead to kisses on some very erotic areas. :)

Kissing and rubbing your bodies is a great start, and an even better combination. You could use chocolate and other aphrodisiacs. The important thing to remember is that foreplay should lead to heightened arousal for sex. Therefore, it should be slow and gradual, completely exploring all of the erogenous zones.

Cheating - Interesting Survey!

Infidelity is more common today then ever before.  It seems as though finding a loyal partner is as rare as it is valuable, so I decided to take a better look at this deception and I found lots of great info that I cant wait to share.

Firstly, I must give some credit to a loyal friend and reader who has given me so much support and encouragement to write this blog.  My friend Quashja has backed me every step of the way and I really appreciate all her help and advice! Now that I have thanked her for being totally awesome, I mush thank her again for suggesting that I cover Cheating.  I can tell from now that this will not be my only post on this topic because there is just so much to cover, but this is just the first of many. 

I didn't know where to begin this post with, so I decided to start with the basics, the statistics.  Like I said before, cheating is becoming more and more common and I believe this is associated with the rise of "Casual sex". As sex becomes more "casual", it loses its value, purity, and importance in a relationship.  This takes me back to watching Pretty Woman, when Julia Roberts plays a hooker who's one rule was no kissing on the mouth.  As a prostitute that engaged in sex with many men, sex lost its value, allure, and overall romantic association, so she preserved kissing, and associated that with emotion.  This is sort of how I think cheating has risen in popularity.  Sex has lost its romantic association with so many people, they look at it more as a pleasurable activity and less like love making.

On my quest to learn more about cheating I found this very interesting site.  Here is a Survey for cheating spouses, basically, if you have ever cheated, you can go there and take the survey. If you have never cheated, you can skip it and view the results to learn more about cheating and to have a look at the very interesting statistics.

I would love to hear every ones thoughts on this site, and like always I love feedback.  Also, if there is anything specific that you would like me to discuss, feel free to post it, or send me an email.