The Mile High Club

 The term "Mile High Club" refers to two people engaging in sexual activity (sexual intercourse) at an altitude of no less than 5,280 ft (a mile high above the earth) in an airplane.  As silly as this might seem, its a HUGE fetish for many people.  Some people claim that the allure is the slight vibration of the aircraft, others have pilot/air host fetishes, personally I think its the thrill of possible getting caught... Semi-public sex is always a little taboo and exciting, so I attribute the hype to that.

Its most popular to "join" the Mile-High Club in an airplane lavatory, but I have heard stories of people, "doing the deed" in their seats, partial or full nudity, and in the reclining bed sections of some overnight flights. 

Its often said that only pilots could be members. but over the years its become so popular that there is a growing industry that helps people fulfill this fantasy.

Some companies have specially outfitted private jets, with beds etc, that couples can rent, for a hefty price, to fly into their fantasies for about an hour...which is usually enough to satisfy the thrill.  There is even a website with tips and stories, submitted from other "club-members". 



Now let me ask the readers, are you members of the "Mile High Club"?

Sexually Enhancing Beverages?

Hello Readers! Today I want to talk about a new trend of designer beverages, and more specifically beverages that claim to spice up your sex life. 

Over the years the energy drink trend has skyrocketed and everyone is looking to get results from a can, not so different from housewives of the 70's, we all want instant gratification, we can energy, focus, memory, and now Passion. 

Truth be told, I was first told about this drink from a friend. She mentioned using it and said she didn't really feel like it helped her in bed but she said it made her male counterpart really horny. It peaked my interest, mainly because I was curious about what the ingredients were.

The Pur3x Designer Beverage company has a few other products out but its newest and most popular is PASSION, and energy drink that is designed to enhance intimacy and boost libido. This drink is said to contain some of the most powerful herbal sexual stimulants available, including horny goat weed, muiria puama, yohimbe bark extract, and catuaba bark extract.

"PUR3X Passion is low in sugar, low in calories and high in taste and high in results. You can drink Passion daily to improve overall performance and drink it 30-45 minutes before sexual activity." - TwistedParties.com

 As if all of that info wasn't enough, my friend gave me two cans.. lol
They have been sitting on my desk for about 2 weeks and I have yet to try them... but I guarantee that once I do, I will be posting an updated blog.. Now has anyone tried this before? I suppose this is just like using an aphrodisiac or some other "mood enhancing" type of thing, but is this going up the road to Viagra, or will it just set the mood? Who knows...

Foreplay

Foreplay is a MUST in sex. It prepares the body to enjoy sexual experiences, and gives each partner a much needed warm up time to get in the mood for something memorable and exciting.
It's always good to take the initiation in sexual matters rather than waiting for your partner to do the same.

1. Get your partner prepared ahead of time; tell them how much you are waiting to just grab them and touch them and do the things you want to do. Just the thoughts will excite your partner!
The stage needs to be set for a fantastic evening. (Or morning, in some cases.) Stimulate all of the senses. Fantasize about sexy scenes, and build your anticipation and creativity.

2. Take a shower, or nice bubble bath (my preference). Cleanliness leads to good sexual performance. A shower builds up your senses, loosens muscles, and naturally increases blood flow which makes you more receptive to touch.

3. Studies show that during foreplay, more attention is given to the face and and upper abdomen. So start at the bottom instead. Try out toes, legs, or inner thighs. Stroking and massaging the inner and outer thigh increases blood flow to the genitals, which of course helps for a better orgasm.

4. Kiss in a very subtle manner, and not just on the lips. Some extremely sensitive and sensual areas are the earlobes, the back of the neck, and the happy trail. This will lead to kisses on some very erotic areas. :)

Kissing and rubbing your bodies is a great start, and an even better combination. You could use chocolate and other aphrodisiacs. The important thing to remember is that foreplay should lead to heightened arousal for sex. Therefore, it should be slow and gradual, completely exploring all of the erogenous zones.

My 3 biggest flirting tips (For the Ladies)

So today I was looking at one of my favorite sites sosuave.com and I read an article called 3 Things you must do when talking to women, in this article they suggest that you appear curious, express admiration, and convince her that you are listening to her.  Now, I really liked this article, mainly because I want a man to do that when speaking to me..  This inspired me to share my 3 flirting dating tips:

• Be Visual: I think when speaking to a man, any man, its important to be descriptive. Men like to see things (no big surprise there).  I know that this sounds like a lot of work, but remember, descriptive can be VERY sexy..
• Let your body language speak: Sometimes words are just words, but body language speaks volumes.  Lots of people are good at reading body language, but the majority has difficulty picking up on this, but the best part is that the person that you are speaking to will subliminally pick up your vibe. (Ex. You can say "Its so warm in here", or you can caress your neck and mention the warmth of the room..) Basically, your body language sends out HUGE non-verbal signs and can make the different between looking like a prude or seeming welcoming. 
• Don't be afraid to be sexy: So many women steer clear of being too sexy because they don't want to seem like a slut, but there is something VERY sexy about a man or woman who knows what they want and isn't afraid to share it.  Obviously you don't want to seem perverted or desperate, but you should be yourself and be real.  There is nothing wrong with being confident and proud of your sexuality and stating your likes and dislikes. Not only will you blow him away with your confidence but you're going to leave him with sex on the brain :-)

What are your flirting do's and don'ts? I would love to hear from both the men and women on this one..

How important is sex in selecting a long term partner?

Today's post is all about the role sex plays in selecting a partner.  More and more i notice that young people consider sex more important that a lot of other things in relationships.  Gone are the days of dating with the intention of marriage, today people date with the intention of getting their partner into BED.  I wont pretend to be a saint and say that this is wrong or anything like that because like most of my peers I've been there, but I do want to hear every one's opinion on this matter. 

If someone was to ask me to rate in order of importance the things that i look for in a partner this would be it :

1. 
   
   Kindness - this is so important in a lover, life partner, and a parent to my future children, When I think about the kind of man I want to spend my very valuable forever with, a kind man is the first think that comes to mind.
2. 
   
   Someone Funny - I love to laugh, and at the end of the day, whether things are good or bad, i want to be in the arms of someone who can make me smile when the whole world is making me frown.
3. 
   
   Confident - I have seen this make or break relationships a million times.  If you are confident then there jealousy will be minimal, not to mention, confident men are GREAT in bed (so I've heard).
4. 
   
   Ambition - I love a man with drive and ambition.  Nothing is a bigger turn on than a go getter.
5. 
   
   Good Credit and Money Management Skills - I work hard for my money and so should my man, I don't expect him to be rich (I'm no gold digger) but I want someone who is money smart and knows how to spend wisely and can balance his checkbook, is that so much to ask for?
6. 
   
   Good intellectual conversation - I have dated enough men from the gutter to know that I need a man who can stimulate me with his conversation, he should be smart, and clever and keep me on my toes. When I am 80 years old sitting on my front porch with my husband and I can barely move, all we are going to have left to please eachother with is great convo!
7. 
   
   Someone attractive - different things attract me to a man, I really have no type, I just like what I like, if that makes sense but Attraction comes seventh on my list because I think all of the above are far more important than good looks.
8. 
   
   Someone good in bed - this is 8th on my list and its because sex is different to every person, and if someone can stimulate me mentally in all the ways i listed above, i think by the time we make it to bed, there will be fireworks, and if there aren't, we would be able to make magic together, and work on it, practice makes perfect after all :-)

What are your thoughts?

Let's get dirty..

There's a famous quote/joke:

"When a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment. When a woman talks
dirty to a man, it's $3.95 a minute" -Unknown

I always found this funny because its so true. Most men love the dirty talk, it goes along with the stereotype than men like their sex to be dirty, wild, and out of the norm, but who exactly dictates that norm? Another stereotype that can be derived from this quote is that women DO NOT like dirty talk, and that if a man talks dirty to her, its sexual harassment, meaning she is being violated and disrespected.

Well ladies and gentlemen, this quote is true in the sense that men love dirty talk and would pay almost $4 a minute for it (if not more), but wrong in the assumption that women don't like it themselves.

On the contrary, I happen to think that dirty talk can be amazing and if done well, simply ORGASMIC. About a year ago, I read a post in MarieClarie.com written by a man, basically wondering, "do you like dirty talk?" and I wanted to scream at my computers screen, "YES, if done right!!!". In this article, the writer tells a story about dirty talk gone wrong, and how turned off the woman was, and then he goes through scenarios of dirty talk, and the negative responses that could possible occur, like "oh you bad girl" meaning that he would sound like a pedophile.

So girls and boys, here are my Dirty talk tips:

• Keep it simple stupid! - Don't get too creative, don't try to throw in any over the top dirty euphemisms. Good: I cant wait to get you out of that dress/pants/shirt.. Bad: I am gonna tear that dress/pants/shirt like a tiger. This leaves your partner thinking, "like a tiger? really buddy?" Its totally fine to start off simple like the example, and use a statement like that to test the waters.
• Two can play that game - Dirty talk often fails because only one participant is participating. Sometimes all it takes is a little "audience participation" to turn a one man show into a party for two. Ask some open ended questions! Good: Do you like when I _____ your _____? Its simple, straight to the point, and it gives your partner the opportunity to join in on the fun, whether that means nodding, saying yes, or even getting braver and giving a longer reply.
• Be gradual - When dirty talk is accompanied by physical interaction, be gradual. Start off slow, and let your words be an accompaniment, don't let it steal the show. Think of it like a hot dog, your words are the condiments, you want to use them to enhance the flavor, not steal the show. The worst thing you can do is reach your verbal climax during your physical foreplay.
• Use it as a long distance link- This isn't really a tip, but more of a suggestion. For those of you in long distance relationships, or business trips etc. use a little dirty talk (or phone sex) to keep the sparks flying while you are apart. Web cams, and sexting are taking over the scene, but there's nothing sexier than something erotic coming from your partners mouth.

Hopefully this was helpful, and can open some eyes and convert a few prudes.. I would love to hear your thoughts on this, and hopefully we can get some sex talk tips/anecdotes from the readers... :-)

To clip or not to clip?

So, I got into an interesting convo today and I decided to blog about it...

What's better, a circumcised penis or an uncircumcised penis? I would like the opinion of both males and females on this one.

On the right, there's a poll, please cast your vote, and feel free to leave comments on this matter, I would love to hear every ones opinion on this.

Personally, I have no preference regarding this, but I happen to know lots of women who are very picky regarding this issue. I cant tell you how many women I know have mentioned that they would not "bed" a guy who hasn't been clipped. Although I personally don't feel that way, it sort of makes me want to circumcise my children when they are born. I know that its cleaner and its becoming more and more the norm, but I think my opinion is more influenced by the chance that my sons foreskin might negatively effect his sex life...

What are your thoughts?