Contrary to Popular Belief, Older women are better in Bed... via Yahoo

Good Morning Everyone!

Interesting topic this morning! While doing my daily news feed read, I came across a article on Yahoo Shine, about the popular misconception that younger women are better sex partners.  Basically the article touched on the point that culture has a huge impact on what people tend to find sexy and western culture has an unrealistic model that young = sexy/more sexual.  More and more women of today find themselves feeding into such stereotypes and try to appear younger and feel less and less sexy as they age, when it should be the opposite. 

We are brainwashed into thinking that women in their teens and early twenties are sexually perfect, because from the evolutionary perspective men are naturally attracted to women that are the most fertile (full hips, large breasts, etc) but if you think for a moment about what makes a woman a good lover, its skill and experience. 

After reading that article I made a few phone calls and asked around to men that I know.. All seemed to agree, Older Women = Better Sex.  Older women know their bodies, and how to use them, they are more comfortable discussing sex and trying new things, and they are usually more sexually skilled over all.  One guy I asked said "When I was 17 I had sex with a 32 year old woman, and she licked my ass, and I liked it, so when I was with younger women I would ask them to, and they would be grossed out", that's just one example. Another man said "Hell yeah, older women are way better in bed, they know how to give head, they aren't afraid to swallow", and my favorite response was this one, "Older women are not only better in bed, but they don't make you feel nervous to try new things and do what comes naturally, think about when you were 18-20, are you a better lover now?" and the truth is, I am.. Years later I find myself happier with my body then I was when I was a teenager, although its not half as "perfect" and I know enough about myself to enjoy sex a lot more, and like I always say, the key to great sex is enjoying it and seeing your partner enjoy it.

What are your thoughts on this topic??

The Good Girls Guide to Bad Girl Sex - a good read

Hello Everyone,

Today I want to share a book with you... "The Good Girls Gide to Bad Girl Sex" is one of the best books I have ever bought, I probably spent about $20 on the book but when I tell you I read this thing cover to cover, I am not lying... I have never really considered myself a "good girl" but I bought this book to see what is considered a "bad girl".  The author is a former Sexual Surrogate and is a Sex therapist, which means she would teach couples how to please each other (at times by demonstration lol) and later became a therapist herself. 

Although at first glance it just looks like a book about sex and positions, she really talks about a lot more.  While reading it I realized that being a "bad girl" is more about how you perceive yourself and less about your actions, its about embracing your inner sex kitten, and being okay with that..

With chapters titled like "Bad girls feel good about being bad", "Bad girls dress the part", and "A Bad girl knows her body" (and many more) she basically encourages and inspires every woman to release her inner bad girl.  Don't get me wrong, she does get into detail about actual sexual acts, and is very descriptive, which is great, but she does it in a way that says "this is normal and you are totally sexy no matter how this ends up" if that makes sense...

I recommend that every woman go out and grab this book, and even men, if you spot this in Barnes and Noble, I would flip through the pages, you never know what you might learn ;-)

I will try to post some little excerpts and some of my fav parts soon in another post...

Have any of you read a book like this? How do you feel about reading such a book?

My 3 biggest flirting tips (For the Ladies)

So today I was looking at one of my favorite sites sosuave.com and I read an article called 3 Things you must do when talking to women, in this article they suggest that you appear curious, express admiration, and convince her that you are listening to her.  Now, I really liked this article, mainly because I want a man to do that when speaking to me..  This inspired me to share my 3 flirting dating tips:

• Be Visual: I think when speaking to a man, any man, its important to be descriptive. Men like to see things (no big surprise there).  I know that this sounds like a lot of work, but remember, descriptive can be VERY sexy..
• Let your body language speak: Sometimes words are just words, but body language speaks volumes.  Lots of people are good at reading body language, but the majority has difficulty picking up on this, but the best part is that the person that you are speaking to will subliminally pick up your vibe. (Ex. You can say "Its so warm in here", or you can caress your neck and mention the warmth of the room..) Basically, your body language sends out HUGE non-verbal signs and can make the different between looking like a prude or seeming welcoming. 
• Don't be afraid to be sexy: So many women steer clear of being too sexy because they don't want to seem like a slut, but there is something VERY sexy about a man or woman who knows what they want and isn't afraid to share it.  Obviously you don't want to seem perverted or desperate, but you should be yourself and be real.  There is nothing wrong with being confident and proud of your sexuality and stating your likes and dislikes. Not only will you blow him away with your confidence but you're going to leave him with sex on the brain :-)

What are your flirting do's and don'ts? I would love to hear from both the men and women on this one..