What men notice first!!

As we near the end of February, the month of love, I wanted to spotlight something interesting that I learned this month. Women are always interested in learning more about men and the things that they find attractive, this is a topic that I often write about, but just this week I read about men and their attraction to healthy hair.  According to Glamour:

• 74% of men indicated that they notice women because of their hair.
• 44% of men surveyed said that hair is the first thing they notice about a woman, more than her clothes (26%), legs (25%), or makeup (4%), and most men surveyed would be more likely to approach a woman at a bar with great hair than a woman wearing a low-cut shirt.
• 82% of men indicated that sexy hair is a key element to a woman's overall sex appeal.
• 60% of men surveyed say they would rather date a woman with great hair than a woman with big breasts.
• 78% of men surveyed consider healthy hair to be a turn-on.

So ladies, treat your hair well, he might be paying more attention to your locks then you thing!

Are stuffed animals sexy?

Recently I saw an article on Yahoo about Celebs posing with stuffed animals, trying to be sexy, so with Valentines Day right around the corner, I find myself wondering, do men think this is sexy? and I wonder why?

Basically, I happen to think its sort of sexy, but we all know that a lot of the time women and men have totally different ideas about whats sexy!

Like this pic of Lindsey Lohan.. I happen to think its sort of sexy in a playful sexy way, but some people find this kinda picture offensive and even a little creepy..

What are your thoughts??

Contrary to Popular Belief, Older women are better in Bed... via Yahoo

Good Morning Everyone!

Interesting topic this morning! While doing my daily news feed read, I came across a article on Yahoo Shine, about the popular misconception that younger women are better sex partners.  Basically the article touched on the point that culture has a huge impact on what people tend to find sexy and western culture has an unrealistic model that young = sexy/more sexual.  More and more women of today find themselves feeding into such stereotypes and try to appear younger and feel less and less sexy as they age, when it should be the opposite. 

We are brainwashed into thinking that women in their teens and early twenties are sexually perfect, because from the evolutionary perspective men are naturally attracted to women that are the most fertile (full hips, large breasts, etc) but if you think for a moment about what makes a woman a good lover, its skill and experience. 

After reading that article I made a few phone calls and asked around to men that I know.. All seemed to agree, Older Women = Better Sex.  Older women know their bodies, and how to use them, they are more comfortable discussing sex and trying new things, and they are usually more sexually skilled over all.  One guy I asked said "When I was 17 I had sex with a 32 year old woman, and she licked my ass, and I liked it, so when I was with younger women I would ask them to, and they would be grossed out", that's just one example. Another man said "Hell yeah, older women are way better in bed, they know how to give head, they aren't afraid to swallow", and my favorite response was this one, "Older women are not only better in bed, but they don't make you feel nervous to try new things and do what comes naturally, think about when you were 18-20, are you a better lover now?" and the truth is, I am.. Years later I find myself happier with my body then I was when I was a teenager, although its not half as "perfect" and I know enough about myself to enjoy sex a lot more, and like I always say, the key to great sex is enjoying it and seeing your partner enjoy it.

What are your thoughts on this topic??

Sensual Massage - For Dummies

Massage is such a beautiful thing, its a great way to connect with other people and the power of touch is amazing. Everyone wants to be touched, when we are hurt, or when we try to console one another our natural instinct is to touch, rub or pat each other.  Most importantly, when we want to connect emotionally, massage can play a very important role. For many years massage has been used as a natural form of medicine and can improve circulation, relax muscles, and promote healing. Not many people know this but I am a licensed massage therapist but I do not currently practice.  In this post, I really hope to provide good tips on how we can all use massage in our relationships, to set the mood and enhance intimacy and most of all, how to do it correctly.  Here are some of the Basics.

Things you need:

Lush Strawberry Fields Massage Bar

- Oil, the main component that can make or break any massage is the type of lube you use. I like oil, you can use any type you like but I like using sunflower or almond oil, but baby oil works great too. I prefer to use warm oil (you can warm it by placing the bottle into a bowl of hot water for a few minutes). This will not only feel great but leave your skin feeling silky and soft.  There are also many great products on the market designed for "Sensual Massage" (not to be confused with actual therapeutic massage).  Some of these products are: Lush Massage Bars, these look a lot like a bar of soap but with slowly melt with your body heat and create a great moisturizing massage oil. My personal fav is the Fever Bar or the Strawberry Fields Forever, which is on the right. 





Tasty Temptations Massage Candle



Another type of sensual massage product is the "self heating" and "edible" kind, that is warm, feels great, smells good, and tastes amazing.  Some of these are the Kama Sutra Warming Oil, and the Tasty Temptation Massage Candle (on left).  The Kama Sutra Oil tastes great and becomes warm when you breathe on it, and the Massage Candle melts into a massage oil that is edible.  Using these specialized products are a great way to get close, get in the mood, and start licking *wink wink*.



Kama Sutra Massage Oil

Here's a word of caution, be careful with edible products, some products taste awful, I would not recommend anything cherry or grape flavored as they tend to taste similar to children's cough syrup and there's nothing less sexy than thinking about children's cough medicine.





- Candles - Candles or dim lighting is a MUST! You want to feel romantic and relaxed and fluorescent lights are not gonna cut it. If you have dimmers, you them. Otherwise, grab some candles, or throw a red scarf over a table lamp for a romantic glow to the room.  You want to create a romantic atmosphere where nothing matters but the two of you.

- Music - Romantic Music is a great way to set the mood. You can use whatever you like, a favorite artist, some old school slow jams, or even some ambiance noises (water, nature, birds chirping). My person favorite is Keith Sweat...

- Create a Massage Area - Here's where you can really get creative, you can do this in bed, on the floor, outside, where ever you want.  I think the floor works best. Its firm and you can lay out lots of soft blankets and pillows to make it comfy, yet still firm enough to provide good pressure and of course leverage. 

Now here's the important part, tips on the actual act of massage:

-Get into a good position - For sensual massage, I think the best position is to straddle your partner, you are close, touching and still in a position to get good leverage.

- Be fluid - Keep your movements continuous and fluid, no stopping, nothing feels worse then someone rubbing their hands back and forth in the same spot in a disconnected fashion, just keep your hands moving the whole time, up the back, across the shoulders, down the arms, and back, it feels great, fluid, and most important complete.

- Enjoy it - Don't think of massaging your partner as "work", this is time for you both to enjoy each other and its a labor of love, if you are tired or bored, switch places, just make sure to be yourself, be playful and sexy and remember, whatever you are feeling, your partner will be able to sense it, so bend over, get messy and have fun!