Sensual Massage - For Dummies

Massage is such a beautiful thing, its a great way to connect with other people and the power of touch is amazing. Everyone wants to be touched, when we are hurt, or when we try to console one another our natural instinct is to touch, rub or pat each other.  Most importantly, when we want to connect emotionally, massage can play a very important role. For many years massage has been used as a natural form of medicine and can improve circulation, relax muscles, and promote healing. Not many people know this but I am a licensed massage therapist but I do not currently practice.  In this post, I really hope to provide good tips on how we can all use massage in our relationships, to set the mood and enhance intimacy and most of all, how to do it correctly.  Here are some of the Basics.

Things you need:

Lush Strawberry Fields Massage Bar

- Oil, the main component that can make or break any massage is the type of lube you use. I like oil, you can use any type you like but I like using sunflower or almond oil, but baby oil works great too. I prefer to use warm oil (you can warm it by placing the bottle into a bowl of hot water for a few minutes). This will not only feel great but leave your skin feeling silky and soft.  There are also many great products on the market designed for "Sensual Massage" (not to be confused with actual therapeutic massage).  Some of these products are: Lush Massage Bars, these look a lot like a bar of soap but with slowly melt with your body heat and create a great moisturizing massage oil. My personal fav is the Fever Bar or the Strawberry Fields Forever, which is on the right. 





Tasty Temptations Massage Candle



Another type of sensual massage product is the "self heating" and "edible" kind, that is warm, feels great, smells good, and tastes amazing.  Some of these are the Kama Sutra Warming Oil, and the Tasty Temptation Massage Candle (on left).  The Kama Sutra Oil tastes great and becomes warm when you breathe on it, and the Massage Candle melts into a massage oil that is edible.  Using these specialized products are a great way to get close, get in the mood, and start licking *wink wink*.



Kama Sutra Massage Oil

Here's a word of caution, be careful with edible products, some products taste awful, I would not recommend anything cherry or grape flavored as they tend to taste similar to children's cough syrup and there's nothing less sexy than thinking about children's cough medicine.





- Candles - Candles or dim lighting is a MUST! You want to feel romantic and relaxed and fluorescent lights are not gonna cut it. If you have dimmers, you them. Otherwise, grab some candles, or throw a red scarf over a table lamp for a romantic glow to the room.  You want to create a romantic atmosphere where nothing matters but the two of you.

- Music - Romantic Music is a great way to set the mood. You can use whatever you like, a favorite artist, some old school slow jams, or even some ambiance noises (water, nature, birds chirping). My person favorite is Keith Sweat...

- Create a Massage Area - Here's where you can really get creative, you can do this in bed, on the floor, outside, where ever you want.  I think the floor works best. Its firm and you can lay out lots of soft blankets and pillows to make it comfy, yet still firm enough to provide good pressure and of course leverage. 

Now here's the important part, tips on the actual act of massage:

-Get into a good position - For sensual massage, I think the best position is to straddle your partner, you are close, touching and still in a position to get good leverage.

- Be fluid - Keep your movements continuous and fluid, no stopping, nothing feels worse then someone rubbing their hands back and forth in the same spot in a disconnected fashion, just keep your hands moving the whole time, up the back, across the shoulders, down the arms, and back, it feels great, fluid, and most important complete.

- Enjoy it - Don't think of massaging your partner as "work", this is time for you both to enjoy each other and its a labor of love, if you are tired or bored, switch places, just make sure to be yourself, be playful and sexy and remember, whatever you are feeling, your partner will be able to sense it, so bend over, get messy and have fun!