I'm Back...

Hello Everyone,

Sorry I have been missing in action... in the past few months I got married and bought a home so I have been busy getting settled in, however I am back and hopefully my posts will be better than ever... I have gotten some great feedback recently and at the request of so many of my readers I will be trying to post at least once a week again.

I am currently accepting topic requests as well...

Happy Reading!

xoxo

Another reason to love Watermelon this summer!!

Watermelon is a summer favorite, its cool, refreshing, cheap and abundant, but how can it make a difference for you in the bedroom?

According to YourTango.com, "eating watermelon makes your body fluids smell (and taste) delicious". The natural sweetness and the fact that its mostly made up of water works in your favor to give semen, vaginal secretions and saliva a sweet taste and aroma.   They recommend that couples who engage in oral sex and enjoy sloppy wet kissing, to share some of the fruit a few hours before lovemaking (or include feeding watermelon into your foreplay) to enhance their sexual experience.

In addition to helping you cool down this summer, watermelon can also "heat things up" as we step into fall.  Some other great foods to enhance the "flavor" in the bedroom are strawberries, grapes, oranges, and my personal favorite pineapple.

Fruit Salad anyone?

5 Signs that you need to improve your head game (For the MEN)

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The Mile High Club

 The term "Mile High Club" refers to two people engaging in sexual activity (sexual intercourse) at an altitude of no less than 5,280 ft (a mile high above the earth) in an airplane.  As silly as this might seem, its a HUGE fetish for many people.  Some people claim that the allure is the slight vibration of the aircraft, others have pilot/air host fetishes, personally I think its the thrill of possible getting caught... Semi-public sex is always a little taboo and exciting, so I attribute the hype to that.

Its most popular to "join" the Mile-High Club in an airplane lavatory, but I have heard stories of people, "doing the deed" in their seats, partial or full nudity, and in the reclining bed sections of some overnight flights. 

Its often said that only pilots could be members. but over the years its become so popular that there is a growing industry that helps people fulfill this fantasy.

Some companies have specially outfitted private jets, with beds etc, that couples can rent, for a hefty price, to fly into their fantasies for about an hour...which is usually enough to satisfy the thrill.  There is even a website with tips and stories, submitted from other "club-members". 



Now let me ask the readers, are you members of the "Mile High Club"?

Tighten Up!!

This post is mainly for the ladies, although women and men alike could benefit from reading this..

How many of you would like to experience longer, stronger orgasms?   I think we all answered "YES" to this question and the answer for many will be this..... "You need to tighten up"

No woman wants to admit that her southern regions are less than tight but the truth is time, gravity, and childbirth are not kind to our V-zones, and our muscles aren't as strong as they once were. The simple answer to this is to do Kegel exercises.  Kegels are the tightening and relaxing of your pc muscles. An easy way to explain this would be to pretend to hold in your pee. Thats the area you want to isolate and focus on. Kegels are easy to do and no one will ever know that you are doing them, so you can do it ANYWHERE.

Another way to exercise this area is with the use of "Ben Wa" balls.  Ben Wa balls are small weighted balls that you insert in the vagina and are worn for a few hours.  The trick with these is that wearing them forces you to tighten your muscles to keep them in, resulting in a tighter vagina after just one wearing.  It is said that Ben Wa balls provide a subtle sensation, not meant to cause orgasm, but to create a subtle tease. 

Personally, I haven't tried these but I know many people who have and they all say that they notice great results after just one use.  They come in many colors and textures and some even come attached with a string or connected for easy removal.

I think that if you want to work on your muscles and kegels alone don't seem to make a difference to you, then this is a great option. They are very affordable, some as cheap as $5.00 and as expensive as $50.00 depending on the material and the packaging (some come with carrying cases and storage bags). 
We all know that the secret for better sex for both men and women is a tighter vagina, so do your kegels, and tighten up!

S&M... Do you like it ROUGH?

Hello Everyone,

Its been a while since I last posted I had a little writers block but I was compelled to write about Rough Sex... Ever since the song S&M came out (Rihanna), everyone seems to "feel so good being bad" and claims to like it "rough", so lets explore that a little.... 

I can honestly say that I liked it a little rough even before it was cool to like it rough.. I always found the appeal in doing something a little taboo, that sort of feeling that the pleasure is so good I need a little pain to make it real. Now S&M is very different from liking sex a little rough... There are several different types and it involves a lot more than a little hair pulling and butt slapping. 

S&M stands for Sadomachocism, a form of sexual role-play, which broadly reffers to recieving pleasure from pain or humiliation.  I know this sounds very strange but it can be broken down even further into BDSM, which is bondage and dicipline S&M, which would even encompass being tied up, or gagged during sex. 

Now here is the fun part, my Rough Sex for Dummies tips:

• Establish a Safe Word - Often times begging and saying no, and stop are part of the pleasurable experience of "rough sex" and S&M type role playing, so a safe word insures that the "play" never gets too rough or a misunderstanding is to occur. The word should me something that you wouldnt normally use during lovemaking, something like "turtle" or "orange" works well, it should be short, and easy to remember too.
• Remember to get consent - Rough Sex is the kind of sex that you need additional consent for.  It falls into the same category as oral, anal, and anything else that you wouldnt imagine your grandparents ever doing.  The right time to approach this would be during some playful foreplay, or maybe during a flirting session. Always remember, just because you have the green light for sex, it does not mean rough sex is okay.
• Start Gradually -  Begin with a heavier tough, before any other rough play begins, start off my caressing a little harder, pulling his/her hair lightly, and then ease into spanking and biting. These are easy ways to determine what your partner enjoys.

• Restraints - People often talk about wanting to be tied up, or tying up their partner but few people acutally do this and end up enjoying this... heres why... most people opt for handcuffs, and handcuffs HURT! Instead, save yourself a few bucks and use a scarf or a mens silky tie, its strong, you have it handy for spur of the moment sex, and it wont hurt like a handcuff. If you want to buy something for this specific use, then invest in some Japanese silk rope, its a strong silky rope that wont bruise or fray and it has lots of creative uses.
• Scratching and Wax - These sort of go hand in hand because they can both easily get botched and end up hurting badly.  With dripping any melted substance I like the 3 second and blow rule. Before applying it to the skin, blow it and wait three seconds, chances are its not going to burn the skin.   With scratching, I like to save that for the climax, its not sexy to have someone scratch you during foreplay, its hard to keep it gentle like a nibble.  During climax all the blood is rushing to other areas of the body and scratching can almost express the intense feelings you are feeling, just be careful not to break the skin.

Rough Sex can be very pleasurable if done right, just remember, enjoy it, be careful and mindful of your partner, and remember your safe word ;-)

How to put a condom on with your mouth

Hello everyone!!

Lets face it, no one "likes" wearing a condom but in order to be safe and healthy, to prevent the spread of STD's and STI's and avoid unplanned pregnancy, condoms are necessary.  Here is a little trick to getting your guy to wear a condom!

I discovered this a few years ago and I have tried it a few times, let me just say, this works best with a flavored condom, I have done it with other kinds as well but some lubricants have a funny taste or leave a numbing feeling in your mouth, its my strong recommendation that you use a flavored condom when doing this.

Basically you would do this either during of before performing oral sex. Simply open the condom, place it with the rolled side facing up, in your mouth, slightly suck at the tip while using your lips and teeth to gently roll the condom down over the penis.  See the video below of an actual demonstration.



This is not only a great way to encourage your partner to wear a condom during sex and oral sex but its also pretty sexy when done correctly.

Try it ladies, and guys be sure to show this to your ladies...

How safe is your Sex?

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What men notice first!!

As we near the end of February, the month of love, I wanted to spotlight something interesting that I learned this month. Women are always interested in learning more about men and the things that they find attractive, this is a topic that I often write about, but just this week I read about men and their attraction to healthy hair.  According to Glamour:

• 74% of men indicated that they notice women because of their hair.
• 44% of men surveyed said that hair is the first thing they notice about a woman, more than her clothes (26%), legs (25%), or makeup (4%), and most men surveyed would be more likely to approach a woman at a bar with great hair than a woman wearing a low-cut shirt.
• 82% of men indicated that sexy hair is a key element to a woman's overall sex appeal.
• 60% of men surveyed say they would rather date a woman with great hair than a woman with big breasts.
• 78% of men surveyed consider healthy hair to be a turn-on.

So ladies, treat your hair well, he might be paying more attention to your locks then you thing!

How to handle a break up ONLINE!

As we approach Valentines Day (Feb 14th) and Break up with your Ex/National Unfriend Day (Feb 13th), I want to tackle the topic of how to handle a break up, online.  In today's society your life, especially the social aspects are very much intertwined with the Internet, whether its Facebook, or twitter or Foursquare, we are all linked to the net, but when you are going through a break up, that isn't always a good thing. As a matter of fact, its a horrible thing.  Here are some of my tips to help those that are going through the Post-Holiday/Pre-Valentines Day break up blues... 

• Don't drink and tweet... or text or post or whatever it is that you do... I know its easier to sleep at night after a few glasses, or bottles but keep away from all forms of communication after hitting the bottle.  You don't want to end up pouring out your heart to your ex, or anyone else... its just going to make things worse.. so be careful. You don't need the whole world to know about your broken heart.
• Don't check in - If you are using FourSquare or twitter or FB, don't broadcast your whereabouts, you never know who might see it and you definitely don't want a stalker ex to know where to find you.

• Block your ex... out of sight = out of mind. Its much harder to stop thinking about someone who is everywhere you look. Someone who had mutual friends will keep popping into convos and posts so once u block them, you wont have to deal with seeing them online.  Get friendly with your privacy settings and protect yourself from the intrusion. 
• Don't make your friends choose - If you have many mutual friends, its okay to talk and vent to them, but never make them choose. Not only is it unfair but it makes you look like a bad friend.  Real friends will be there for you and support you in your time of need, but remember, just because you are hurting it doesn't give you the right to be a bad friend in return.
• Unfriend when you are ready - If you are ready to unfriend now, then more power to you! But....if you aren't ready, then just block that persons feed, and keep it moving.. if someone is really a pain in the ass, then unfriend them. Remember, its JUST facebook, you wouldn't keep a bad friend around in real life so what makes "friendship" different via the Internet? Remember, you and your happiness comes first.

Break up with your EX Day! Feb 13th

Hello Everyone! Today I would like to spotlight fantastic website that I follow and share with you their concept of "Break up with your EX Day"!

YourTango.com is a great website that basically talks about love, life, and SEX and I love their articles.  Recently they have begun a campaign to help their readers "Break up" with their ex's.  Though it sounds redundant, it makes a lot of sense. These days when you break up with someone, they are still very much a part of your lives, via Facebook, Twitter, BBM, Email and Text forwards, etc, so by Feb 13th, in preparation for Valentines Day, BREAK UP WITH YOUR EX!! Cleanse your life of the stress and the constant "in your face" reminder of the past, let it go and get rid of all the connections. Delete them, unfriend them, unfollow them, erase their number, and let yourself move on!

There's more tips and advice all about "Break up with your Ex Day" here! Check it out!

Valentines Day, the LoveBites Way!

As we venture into the month of February everywhere you go its all about Valentines Day.... Now I won't lie, its sweet to celebrate and shower each other with affection during this time, but I am one of those people who thinks that you should appreciate the person you love everyday... however, I do still celebrate V-DAY!

Now recently many male friends of mine have been asking me what to get their girlfriends for Valentines Day so I decided to blog about it...

Firstly, suggesting a great gift is going to be hard because everyone is so different, and you want to get something that she will love! I am going to break down my suggestions by the length of time dating... its just easier that way!

1-6 Months

At this point the relationship is still very new, often times you haven't said the L-word yet but its your first Valentines Day together and you don't want to be cheezy.  In my opinion most guys go the very predictable and safe route and get flowers, a card, candy, or a teddy bear.  While all of that is sweet, unless your girl is a pre-teen, none of it is memorable. This is your chance to wow her and to make her remember this Valentines Day, whether you are together or not. 

• Plan a couples activity: This means doing something together, preferably something that you have never done. Go to the spa, go ice skating, plan a picnic, go on a local sight seeing tour in your city, take a pottery class, visit a museum or the zoo. Its your chance to do something she will not expect.

6 Months-1 Year

Around now its possible that you have said the L-Word and you're having sex, this is definitely the Honeymoon phase and you should know enough about your sweetie to get her something that will be special.   She is going to probably expect the usual, its still your first V-Day together and you still want to make an impact but you also want to pull on her heart strings a bit by wowing her with how well you know her, and expressing that you intend to have a future together. 

• Give the gift that keeps on giving.  This shows that you know what she likes and you want to give her something to not only make her smile today but again in the future.  You can buy her something she needs or wants, like an iPod loaded with "your songs", an E-reader if she likes to read, make her a gift basket of wine and snacks for a movie night in the future, buy a package of dance classes for you both, get two open tickets for a trip, buy her tickets to see a show in a few weeks, make her a great dinner and tell her that she owes you one.  These are all ideas that point into the future.

1-3 Years

If you have been together this long then this should be a little easier, you have probably spent a few V-days together so you might know what she likes and dislikes by now.  Now you need to show her that even now, after a few years, that she is still sexy. You need to ignite the spark!

• Buy her some sexy lingerie, plan a romantic evening, get a "toy" for you both to play with, take her out to dinner to a Fondue Restaurant like the Melting Pot, where you can feed each other something sinful and gooey! Offer her a massage, take her out dancing, do whatever you think will make her feel like the sexy woman you know she is.

If you are living together or moving in

This can be at any time in the relationship.  Once you are thinking about or already are living together then you can buy her something special for your home.  I know people always say not to get her something for the house but this is different. You are not going to buy a blender or a vacuum, you are going to buy something that will make her smile every time she even looks at it.

• You can make her some art, get a canvas and some paint and get creative, when she sees this she will always remember how unexpected that gift was.
• Frame a memento, something she might not expect like some old movie stubs, a printed out movie sign from the first movie you ever saw together, the menu from the first dinner out, something special and unique to the both of you.

• Buy a his and her item. I love this idea, there are his and her robes, aprons, tooth brushes, coffee cups, pillow cases (which I love). Just something special that says "you are my other half".
• Get a pet.  This is a touchy suggestion because this is something that you both should have discussed before but if you have been talking about it, its a great time to finally do it! Don't run out and buy a dog but maybe buy her a set of cute doggie bowls and a leash, maybe a dog t-shirt for the pup, and on valentines day make it a date to adopt your new family member.

There's are just a few ideas, and of course they are all generic, as the man you will need to tailor your date and gift to the likes of the lady in your life.  Women love flowers, we love the cards and the candy, and not to mention Jewelry, those are all usually safe bets but my suggestions are a little more unique and definitely more memorable!!

Happy Romancing to Everyone!!

Anal Sex, yay or nay?

Do you "do" anal? - Every woman has probably been asked this question many times, and the answers may vary depending on what is meant my "Anal". Anal sex most often refers to the sex act involving insertion of the penis into the anus of a sexual partner. The term anal sex can also sometimes include other sexual acts involving the anus, not limited to but including insertion of toys or fingers into the body. In the past anal sex was believed to be a purely homosexual act but in 2009 a study of American college undergraduates revealed that one in four heterosexual individuals admitted to having anal sex.

Though anal sex is pleasurable for many people most find it very painful. Most women rate the practice among their least favorite sexual activities because of the pain or discomfort involved. Psychological factors, as well as technique, were found to play a role in the experience of pain during anal sex.

Regardless of the pain factor, Anal sex is needless to say the most popular of sexual taboos. While many people are at the very least curious enough to try it, few go about it the right way and/or have a negative experience, and never do it again. Its easy to see why people are so intrigued about this act. Men like the idea of tightness and friction, and both partners can appreciate the allure of doing something naughty, unique and venturing into an unknown area together. 

If you or your partner fall into the category of people who have only tried anal sex once and then swore it off for life it is probably because you had a painful experience, or have heard enough horror stories to last you a lifetime.  The anus is nerve-packed and with the right kind of stimulation, anal play can feel amazing. Unfortunately, the same cluster of nerves responsible for the pleasure can cause great pain. When having anal sex you must show your concern for each others pleasure and comfort.

Here are some tips, summarized from Askmen.com:

1. She needs to be relaxed and prepared; anal sex is not suited for a quickie. The anus will tighten if she is nervous, which will make it hard for you to get in and more painful for her.

2.You probably already know what really turns her on, so whether it’s a bubble bath and a massage or hardcore porn and costumes, have your tools at the ready. Getting her aroused is of the utmost importance.

3. Use foreplay and make sure she is horny and very into it before you even think about touching her butt, take time and start slowly, using your mouth and fingers to stimulate her before putting your penis anywhere near her. You might even want to just use smaller toys and your fingers until she gets used to the idea of having something inside that particular opening.

4. Use lube -- lots of lube. Unlike the vaginal opening, the anus does not create its own lubrication; you’ll need to use plenty of artificial wetness to ensure a smooth ride.
5. Always use a condom for anal sex. Because of the increased chances of small tears in the anal cavity during anal sex, it is easier to transmit several sexually transmitted diseases and infections, including HIV and hepatitis C.

6. Be gentle and communicate every step of the way. Its important to do so, if not you may hurt her.

7. DO NOT try to imitate what you see in PORN. Porn stars are often stretched out or too damn high to understand the pain that they are feeling.  The often use desensitizing products as well to numb the pain, which is the body's way of telling you that something is wrong. Take it slow and remember that it should be pleasurable for both partners.

I found AskMen.com EXTREMELY useful when writing this post, to read more here's the link : AskMen.com - Anal Sex

What's a cock ring?

Happy Monday Everyone (yeah not really, I know)...

Today's post was a question is pretty interesting and was sent in my an anonymous reader:

What exactly is a cock ring, and what does it do?

Basically a cock ring is a sexual device made of either silicone, leather, rubber, or metal that fits snugly around the base of the penis and sometimes the scrotum and creates a trap to enhance sexual pleasure and cause stronger, harder erections.  These can be worn to prolong an erection and also to treat erectile dysfunction.  The come in a variety of designs and sizes, so theres guaranteed to be a cock ring for everyone. 

Some cock rings even have small bullet vibrators attached to the top to serve as clitoral simulators, these are AWESOME... not only will it create a long lasting erection, preventing circulation, but it will stimulate your woman till she begs you to stop... literally...   These cock rings are usually silicone or rubber and are often one size fits all because they are stretchy.  I like these because it enhances the experience for both partners and theres no size dilemma to worry about.  These are also reusable. 

What are your thoughts on this item? Have you tried this? Would you be interested in experimenting with this?

Are stuffed animals sexy?

Recently I saw an article on Yahoo about Celebs posing with stuffed animals, trying to be sexy, so with Valentines Day right around the corner, I find myself wondering, do men think this is sexy? and I wonder why?

Basically, I happen to think its sort of sexy, but we all know that a lot of the time women and men have totally different ideas about whats sexy!

Like this pic of Lindsey Lohan.. I happen to think its sort of sexy in a playful sexy way, but some people find this kinda picture offensive and even a little creepy..

What are your thoughts??

Should men Shave??

Lets face it, its 2011 and almost every woman does some sort of pubic grooming, but what about our men?

A reader emailed me and told me that she's been with her boyfriend for over a year and she always shaves and recently began waxing and he boyfriend has never shaved or even trimmed for her. She asked me if its common and how she could get him to groom a little more.

The sad truth is, many men don't feel the need to shave or trim their pubic areas.  Society has created this stereotype that women should be well groomed, whether that be shaved, waxed, or trimmed, at all times, and that men can be hairy beasts.  Personally, I think men should shave or at least trim their pubes.  I wouldn't expect a man to go get a "Brazilian" but at least try to clean up the bush if you expect me to be poking around down there.  There are some men out there that have taken a cue from all that porn they watch and have decided to shave and even use hair remover to go totally bare, which is awesome, but not every guy out there is that considerate.

My advice to the men out there is this, "If your woman shaves, waxes, etc, then be considerate and at least trim and consider shaving for her. No one wants to head south and choke themselves on a Brillo pad."

My advice to the women out there is even simpler, "Ask him to shave", chances are he never even thought about it, so before your blame him for not doing it, bring it to his attention.  You might be surprised at his willingness to please you in the sack, even if it means taking a razor to his... :-)

Contrary to Popular Belief, Older women are better in Bed... via Yahoo

Good Morning Everyone!

Interesting topic this morning! While doing my daily news feed read, I came across a article on Yahoo Shine, about the popular misconception that younger women are better sex partners.  Basically the article touched on the point that culture has a huge impact on what people tend to find sexy and western culture has an unrealistic model that young = sexy/more sexual.  More and more women of today find themselves feeding into such stereotypes and try to appear younger and feel less and less sexy as they age, when it should be the opposite. 

We are brainwashed into thinking that women in their teens and early twenties are sexually perfect, because from the evolutionary perspective men are naturally attracted to women that are the most fertile (full hips, large breasts, etc) but if you think for a moment about what makes a woman a good lover, its skill and experience. 

After reading that article I made a few phone calls and asked around to men that I know.. All seemed to agree, Older Women = Better Sex.  Older women know their bodies, and how to use them, they are more comfortable discussing sex and trying new things, and they are usually more sexually skilled over all.  One guy I asked said "When I was 17 I had sex with a 32 year old woman, and she licked my ass, and I liked it, so when I was with younger women I would ask them to, and they would be grossed out", that's just one example. Another man said "Hell yeah, older women are way better in bed, they know how to give head, they aren't afraid to swallow", and my favorite response was this one, "Older women are not only better in bed, but they don't make you feel nervous to try new things and do what comes naturally, think about when you were 18-20, are you a better lover now?" and the truth is, I am.. Years later I find myself happier with my body then I was when I was a teenager, although its not half as "perfect" and I know enough about myself to enjoy sex a lot more, and like I always say, the key to great sex is enjoying it and seeing your partner enjoy it.

What are your thoughts on this topic??

How to give GOOD head...

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Happy New Year!!

Wishing Everyone a Very Happy and Sexy New Year!!

I want to give special thanks to all of my friends who have shown me so much support over the past few months and gave me the inspiration to begin writing LoveBites!!

xoxo