My 3 biggest flirting tips (For the Ladies)

So today I was looking at one of my favorite sites sosuave.com and I read an article called 3 Things you must do when talking to women, in this article they suggest that you appear curious, express admiration, and convince her that you are listening to her.  Now, I really liked this article, mainly because I want a man to do that when speaking to me..  This inspired me to share my 3 flirting dating tips:

• Be Visual: I think when speaking to a man, any man, its important to be descriptive. Men like to see things (no big surprise there).  I know that this sounds like a lot of work, but remember, descriptive can be VERY sexy..
• Let your body language speak: Sometimes words are just words, but body language speaks volumes.  Lots of people are good at reading body language, but the majority has difficulty picking up on this, but the best part is that the person that you are speaking to will subliminally pick up your vibe. (Ex. You can say "Its so warm in here", or you can caress your neck and mention the warmth of the room..) Basically, your body language sends out HUGE non-verbal signs and can make the different between looking like a prude or seeming welcoming. 
• Don't be afraid to be sexy: So many women steer clear of being too sexy because they don't want to seem like a slut, but there is something VERY sexy about a man or woman who knows what they want and isn't afraid to share it.  Obviously you don't want to seem perverted or desperate, but you should be yourself and be real.  There is nothing wrong with being confident and proud of your sexuality and stating your likes and dislikes. Not only will you blow him away with your confidence but you're going to leave him with sex on the brain :-)

What are your flirting do's and don'ts? I would love to hear from both the men and women on this one..

How important is sex in selecting a long term partner?

Today's post is all about the role sex plays in selecting a partner.  More and more i notice that young people consider sex more important that a lot of other things in relationships.  Gone are the days of dating with the intention of marriage, today people date with the intention of getting their partner into BED.  I wont pretend to be a saint and say that this is wrong or anything like that because like most of my peers I've been there, but I do want to hear every one's opinion on this matter. 

If someone was to ask me to rate in order of importance the things that i look for in a partner this would be it :

1. 
   
   Kindness - this is so important in a lover, life partner, and a parent to my future children, When I think about the kind of man I want to spend my very valuable forever with, a kind man is the first think that comes to mind.
2. 
   
   Someone Funny - I love to laugh, and at the end of the day, whether things are good or bad, i want to be in the arms of someone who can make me smile when the whole world is making me frown.
3. 
   
   Confident - I have seen this make or break relationships a million times.  If you are confident then there jealousy will be minimal, not to mention, confident men are GREAT in bed (so I've heard).
4. 
   
   Ambition - I love a man with drive and ambition.  Nothing is a bigger turn on than a go getter.
5. 
   
   Good Credit and Money Management Skills - I work hard for my money and so should my man, I don't expect him to be rich (I'm no gold digger) but I want someone who is money smart and knows how to spend wisely and can balance his checkbook, is that so much to ask for?
6. 
   
   Good intellectual conversation - I have dated enough men from the gutter to know that I need a man who can stimulate me with his conversation, he should be smart, and clever and keep me on my toes. When I am 80 years old sitting on my front porch with my husband and I can barely move, all we are going to have left to please eachother with is great convo!
7. 
   
   Someone attractive - different things attract me to a man, I really have no type, I just like what I like, if that makes sense but Attraction comes seventh on my list because I think all of the above are far more important than good looks.
8. 
   
   Someone good in bed - this is 8th on my list and its because sex is different to every person, and if someone can stimulate me mentally in all the ways i listed above, i think by the time we make it to bed, there will be fireworks, and if there aren't, we would be able to make magic together, and work on it, practice makes perfect after all :-)

What are your thoughts?