Millionaire Matchmaker - And Why All Guys Should Watch It!

First let me begin by saying, I LOVE THIS SHOW... I am a loyal viewer not only because I love the drama, but Patti Stanger really knows her stuff.  Bravo TV has a ton of Reality TV shows, and they all make for awesome entertainment but this show really teaches both men and women a little about life and love, not to mention it gives us an interesting peek into the dating pool out there.

Basically the premise of the show is to match single wealthy people, all claiming to be millionaires, with potential spouses.  Patti Stanger is the owner of the Beverly Hills based "Millionaire's Club" where the millionaires are her clients and she basically helps them find love.  What I love about this show is that Patti does not go out and find woman to fit a specific description, and sticks them with the millionaire who ordered them like a mail order bride.  What she does is meets with her client, and tries to see what they are looking for and the reasons that they have not yet found a partner.  At times the client needs a makeover, needs some sort of therapy, needs to take a class, or learn a personality skill, no matter the issue, she addresses that before looking for a potential match.  She is aware that her clients are not perfect, and will not match a highly flawed or unstable person with a partner.

From watching this show and following her blog, I have learned a lot of things, but one thing that I always think to myself is "I wish more men watched this show".  Here are a few things that I've learned that I wish more men knew:

1. One of the rules of the millionaires club is that there is NO sex till monogamy.  This is a great rule because if you are using such a service to find a SPOUSE, then sex is not your primary goal, theres is sooo much more that should click first. 
2. The first date can often map out the course of the relationship. Of course this is not written in stone, but we all know how important first impressions are and first dates even more so.  Your first date is your partners first taste of you, your personality, your style, and where they stand in your life.  Be yourself, be real, but be the BEST you possible.

3. The man should plan the first date.  This is something a little old fashioned and many people may not agree with this, but I wish more men did this.  Most women, whether they want to admit it or not, want a Knight in Shining Armor to sweep them off their feet, and what better way to begin a relationship than giving your man the chance to do that.  Its the first date and everything is new and exciting, down the road you will have millions of chances to plan things and make more memories but give him the chance to romance you and slay some dragons for you, remember you cant expect romance unless you give him the chance.
4. Theres nothing wrong with chasing a woman.  Women no matter the age, want to feel beautiful, sexy and desired.  That's the bottom line.  Some women are aggressive and some may play coy, but nothing makes a woman feel sexier than being pursued.  Honestly, I feel very sexy even if a ugly guy is into me. Its just a little reminder that we are desired.  More and more men are becoming more submissive and women are turning into the hunters, but sometimes even the hunter wants to feel like a prized prey, so don't be afraid boys, theres nothing wrong with being straightforward and displaying interest.  Playing Hard to get will only get you so far...
5. Learn to use your dating data.  Every date, good or bad, is one step closer to finding you mate. Men looking for a long term partner need to stop looking at every date as a "smash or pass".  If it isn't great, well then you know what you aren't looking for, as simple as that.. If its great, then keep dating her, once you are officially only seeing each other, then head to bed!

There are a ton more great tips from this show, so much in fact that I just might write another post about this, but I would love to hear your thoughts on this...

My 3 biggest flirting tips (For the Ladies)

So today I was looking at one of my favorite sites sosuave.com and I read an article called 3 Things you must do when talking to women, in this article they suggest that you appear curious, express admiration, and convince her that you are listening to her.  Now, I really liked this article, mainly because I want a man to do that when speaking to me..  This inspired me to share my 3 flirting dating tips:

• Be Visual: I think when speaking to a man, any man, its important to be descriptive. Men like to see things (no big surprise there).  I know that this sounds like a lot of work, but remember, descriptive can be VERY sexy..
• Let your body language speak: Sometimes words are just words, but body language speaks volumes.  Lots of people are good at reading body language, but the majority has difficulty picking up on this, but the best part is that the person that you are speaking to will subliminally pick up your vibe. (Ex. You can say "Its so warm in here", or you can caress your neck and mention the warmth of the room..) Basically, your body language sends out HUGE non-verbal signs and can make the different between looking like a prude or seeming welcoming. 
• Don't be afraid to be sexy: So many women steer clear of being too sexy because they don't want to seem like a slut, but there is something VERY sexy about a man or woman who knows what they want and isn't afraid to share it.  Obviously you don't want to seem perverted or desperate, but you should be yourself and be real.  There is nothing wrong with being confident and proud of your sexuality and stating your likes and dislikes. Not only will you blow him away with your confidence but you're going to leave him with sex on the brain :-)

What are your flirting do's and don'ts? I would love to hear from both the men and women on this one..