Anal Sex, yay or nay?

Do you "do" anal? - Every woman has probably been asked this question many times, and the answers may vary depending on what is meant my "Anal". Anal sex most often refers to the sex act involving insertion of the penis into the anus of a sexual partner. The term anal sex can also sometimes include other sexual acts involving the anus, not limited to but including insertion of toys or fingers into the body. In the past anal sex was believed to be a purely homosexual act but in 2009 a study of American college undergraduates revealed that one in four heterosexual individuals admitted to having anal sex.

Though anal sex is pleasurable for many people most find it very painful. Most women rate the practice among their least favorite sexual activities because of the pain or discomfort involved. Psychological factors, as well as technique, were found to play a role in the experience of pain during anal sex.

Regardless of the pain factor, Anal sex is needless to say the most popular of sexual taboos. While many people are at the very least curious enough to try it, few go about it the right way and/or have a negative experience, and never do it again. Its easy to see why people are so intrigued about this act. Men like the idea of tightness and friction, and both partners can appreciate the allure of doing something naughty, unique and venturing into an unknown area together. 

If you or your partner fall into the category of people who have only tried anal sex once and then swore it off for life it is probably because you had a painful experience, or have heard enough horror stories to last you a lifetime.  The anus is nerve-packed and with the right kind of stimulation, anal play can feel amazing. Unfortunately, the same cluster of nerves responsible for the pleasure can cause great pain. When having anal sex you must show your concern for each others pleasure and comfort.

Here are some tips, summarized from Askmen.com:

1. She needs to be relaxed and prepared; anal sex is not suited for a quickie. The anus will tighten if she is nervous, which will make it hard for you to get in and more painful for her.

2.You probably already know what really turns her on, so whether it’s a bubble bath and a massage or hardcore porn and costumes, have your tools at the ready. Getting her aroused is of the utmost importance.

3. Use foreplay and make sure she is horny and very into it before you even think about touching her butt, take time and start slowly, using your mouth and fingers to stimulate her before putting your penis anywhere near her. You might even want to just use smaller toys and your fingers until she gets used to the idea of having something inside that particular opening.

4. Use lube -- lots of lube. Unlike the vaginal opening, the anus does not create its own lubrication; you’ll need to use plenty of artificial wetness to ensure a smooth ride.
5. Always use a condom for anal sex. Because of the increased chances of small tears in the anal cavity during anal sex, it is easier to transmit several sexually transmitted diseases and infections, including HIV and hepatitis C.

6. Be gentle and communicate every step of the way. Its important to do so, if not you may hurt her.

7. DO NOT try to imitate what you see in PORN. Porn stars are often stretched out or too damn high to understand the pain that they are feeling.  The often use desensitizing products as well to numb the pain, which is the body's way of telling you that something is wrong. Take it slow and remember that it should be pleasurable for both partners.

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