Now my answer for this is simple, "If you want", but let me elaborate. I personally am a Giver. I enjoy giving gifts and I understand that the concept of a gift is to give someone something that you would like them to have. Its a simple and easy concept to understand. There might be an occasion or event that creates the gift giving opportunity but the bottom line is still the same, you give a gift because you want someone to have a certain item, NOT because you expect something in return.Should I buy a Christmas Gift for my "Friend with Benefits"?
Now if understand that the was to give a gift is with an open heart and without expecting anything in return, then you are ready to select a gift.
A friend with benefits is not just a friend, but a friend that you have a sexual relationship with, so selecting a gift might be easy. If you have been friends for a long time or if you know of something that this person wants, then your job is simple but if you have no idea what to get, or if you aren't very close friends, then here are my tips...
- Buy something naughty - Theres nothing wrong with buying a "FWB" some lingerie or boxers, its cute, inexpensive and its a great way to remind that friend of how much you appreciate the special benefits that you have arranged.
- Buy something that you can "Share" - If you feel uneasy about buying a gift for this person, but you really want to, a sharable gift is a great compromise. Think a massage for two, a sexy novelty game, a gift basket of yummy bedroom friendly snacks, a bottle of wine and a box of chocolate truffles, something that is a gift for you both to enjoy while you are together.
- Buy a gift for his/her home or office - this is a great neutral gift. This gift says "I noticed you like movies/books/candles/lamps/throw pillows/pens/figurines of some sort/paperweights etc, so I thought you might like this. This shows that you pay attention and you just thought the recipient would have interest in the particular gift.
- Steer clear of "relationship" gifts, like keepsakes, couples items (jewelry, ornaments, picture frames)
- Don't spend a lot of money. A gift for a friend is coming from the heart, not your wallet, therefore shop from the heart as well...
Happy Holidays!!
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2 Response to To Gift or Not to Gift? - That is the Question!
You hit th nail on the head with this one. I think the FWB gift givin is key its more of saying I appreciate you for more than sex but because we are friend. However, it must be clear that you are friends because there is difference between a FWB and a jump. number one rule you never gift a jump. not trying to be mean buy that position comes with rules. but with FWB its never hard to find a gift because you know that person. Nisha you gave some really good examples however be careful with the gift you give because what may seem as a understanding that you are FWB to you may seem as a jester to a new level to the recieve so just make sure the lines are clear and enjoy.. Adult toys always a plus and who does'nt love lingerie..If i gift you lingerie know that its going to be either pink black or a combination of both...Merry Christmas. and a Merry SEXmas. To all my hoilday freaks. Peace.
Great comment Jaye!! Thanks for adding that, theres a HUGE difference between a FWB and a JUMP and it should never be confused... the key word is FRIEND with benefits... so under all the sex, that person is still a friend..
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