Another reason to love Watermelon this summer!!

Watermelon is a summer favorite, its cool, refreshing, cheap and abundant, but how can it make a difference for you in the bedroom?

According to YourTango.com, "eating watermelon makes your body fluids smell (and taste) delicious". The natural sweetness and the fact that its mostly made up of water works in your favor to give semen, vaginal secretions and saliva a sweet taste and aroma.   They recommend that couples who engage in oral sex and enjoy sloppy wet kissing, to share some of the fruit a few hours before lovemaking (or include feeding watermelon into your foreplay) to enhance their sexual experience.

In addition to helping you cool down this summer, watermelon can also "heat things up" as we step into fall.  Some other great foods to enhance the "flavor" in the bedroom are strawberries, grapes, oranges, and my personal favorite pineapple.

Fruit Salad anyone?

5 Signs that you need to improve your head game (For the MEN)

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How to put a condom on with your mouth

Hello everyone!!

Lets face it, no one "likes" wearing a condom but in order to be safe and healthy, to prevent the spread of STD's and STI's and avoid unplanned pregnancy, condoms are necessary.  Here is a little trick to getting your guy to wear a condom!

I discovered this a few years ago and I have tried it a few times, let me just say, this works best with a flavored condom, I have done it with other kinds as well but some lubricants have a funny taste or leave a numbing feeling in your mouth, its my strong recommendation that you use a flavored condom when doing this.

Basically you would do this either during of before performing oral sex. Simply open the condom, place it with the rolled side facing up, in your mouth, slightly suck at the tip while using your lips and teeth to gently roll the condom down over the penis.  See the video below of an actual demonstration.



This is not only a great way to encourage your partner to wear a condom during sex and oral sex but its also pretty sexy when done correctly.

Try it ladies, and guys be sure to show this to your ladies...

How to give GOOD head...

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5 Interesting things that Turn Men Off!

Hello Everyone,

Today I did some interesting "research" and I am dying to share my results with you...
I asked around to different men and proposed this question "What turns you off sexually about a woman?"
and here are the most popular and interesting answers that I got...

1. Dead in Bed- Men hate a woman who is wack in bed... theres nothing worse that having sex with a woman whose body is limp and seems distant.  This shouldn't come as a surprise, as a woman, we don't want to be intimate with a man who isn't passionate about whats happening, so why would it be any different for a man? Men want a woman who is passionate and full of "fire", she should be totally present, and take lots of initiative, aggressive even!
2. Poor Grooming - This was the second biggest complaint - Basically, say no to bushy pubes! No one wants to dig through a Forrest of hair to find the goods, so keep it trimmed, shaved, or waxed. Its sexier and cleaner and nothing is sexier than being clean!! Ladies, keep this in mind, when you are trimmed, your man gets a better view, and we all know how visual men are!

3. Worn Out Panties - It shocked me that so many women that I know thought that their men didn't care about the type/condition of their panties... I understand that girls want to be comfortable, but there are VERY sexy panties out there that are made of breathable cotton materials that are still extremely sexy. Why wear underwear with your man that you have been with for a while that you wouldn't wear on "opening night" with a new man?? Think of your panties as the "gift wrapping", and the kitty as the "gift", it should be pretty, clean, inviting, and welcoming.. get rid of the holey, worn out, stretched out, ripped elastic, seen better days panties at the bottom of your drawer... NO ONE wants to see that...
4. Vaginal Dryness - Whether you have a medical condition, are going through menopause, or are just not turned on, Vaginal Dryness is a HUGE turnoff.  Like I mention on my previous post, wetter is better, and if you are dry, you have options... Get some replens, its a product sold to re-hydrate the vagina, designed for women with medical related dryness, or get some LUBE... Having sex with a dry women is the equivalent of fucking a guy who is soft, its difficult to do, and it makes you wonder if they are turned on... so get wet ladies! 

5. Strange Odors - This is no surprise... men are turned off my women who smell, any kind of negative smell is a sexual turn off... I often hear women say that they find it very sexy when their man smells a little sweaty, but I NEVER hear men say that.. Men often hold their women to unrealistic standards, but that's just the way they are programmed and smells are part of that issue.  If you are clean and well groomed then this will all fall into place and this shouldn't be an issue at all, all your body smells should be positive and pheromone packed!!

What are your thoughts??

Wetter is better - Lube for Dummies

Hello Everyone,

Tonight I want to talk about lube.. Basically I decided to write about this because someone I know confided in me that he and his girlfriend are still using baby oil gel in bed as lube, and basically, I cringed... so this is for him lol...

When I say "lube" I mean personal lubricant, sold for sexual or medical purposes, and designed specifically for use on the genital area.  Lube basically reduces friction during masturbation or sexual acts, and theres tons of great products on the market for this purpose. Not every slippery substance is suitable as lube. This is something that I cannot stress enough! Baby oil, petroleum jelly, and crisco (lmao) are great for a ton of other uses, but not as lube. 

Heres why:

• Most oil based lubes will cause a condom to deteriorate and weaken, therefore increasing the chance of accidental pregnancy and spreading STD's.
• Some substances are not easily washed off, they may leave a less than pleasant residue.
• Some may encourage infection in women, just because its greasy, it doesn't mean you can shove it in there.

There are three kinds of personal lubricant on the market, water based, oil based, and silicone based.  They are all great, but which is right for you depends on your preference and any allergic reactions you might have.
Here's the difference...

Water Based: You guessed it, Water based lube is made from WATER, its slippery, slick, and is easily cleaned up, just use a Little warm water and its GONE.  The downside is that it will dry up quicker than oil based or silicone based products, but the plus side is that it is 100% condom safe, no matter what kinda condom you decide to use, a water based lube is safe! The most popular water based lubes are KY Jelly, Astroglide, and WET but there are tons out there.

Oil Based:  Like I mentioned above, these are baby oil and petroleum jelly, neither are a great idea for use with condoms.

Silicone Based: These are similar to Water based in that they are condom safe and they clean up easier than Oil based lubes, they are thinner than most and are super slick. Unlike water based products, silicone lube will not dry out so theres no needs to keep reapplying (a huge plus) the only downside is that some people are allergic, so be careful when using this.  Popular Brands are Wet PLATINUM and Bodyglide.

Now those are the basics, but theres also specialty lubes out there, like the His and Her varieties which offer warming, numbing, cooling and tingling sensations as well, the lube you pick is up to you but be safe and get WET!!

Bite It!

Today's long overdue post is all about biting.  The vampire phenomenon is on the rise and everyone has what I like to call "Twilight Fever", so biting has become very sexy.  Sensual Biting, as I like to call it, unleashes a raw and animalistic side to every person and creates a sense of pure passion and is a great technique to master. Basically, if you want to see a woman squirm with pleasure, use your teeth during foreplay.

Here are some tips:

• Bite her erogenous zones: Start at the nape of her neck, inner thighs and work your way to "Sweeter" areas, these areas feel amazing to be kissed and even better to be bite,.
• Make it quick: The key to keeping Sensual biting from hurting is to keep it quick. Take small nibbles that last only a few seconds, this will ensure that there is just enough pain to feel good without making your partner feel like are in bed with Dracula.
• Create a Climax: Start of slowly, licking and nibbling gently and slowly add pressure and increase as the passion builds, the additional pressure will keep it exciting and makes the ever so slight pain stand out from all the other sensations being felt at the moment.

• Marks: Be careful with marks.. unlike necking in high school , most adults today are very turned off by marks and hickeys, but some can be very sexy. I hate the idea of walking around with a purple bruise on my neck, but a similar mark on my inner thigh, or even my abdomen can be sexy to have lingering for a few days, reminding me of a passionate moment.

Basically, whether you are in bed, on a date or just "having a bite", biting can be a very sexy and unique way of expressing the way you feel.  So next time you are kissing someone goodbye and you don't want to let go..... grab a little bite...

The Good Girls Guide to Bad Girl Sex - a good read

Hello Everyone,

Today I want to share a book with you... "The Good Girls Gide to Bad Girl Sex" is one of the best books I have ever bought, I probably spent about $20 on the book but when I tell you I read this thing cover to cover, I am not lying... I have never really considered myself a "good girl" but I bought this book to see what is considered a "bad girl".  The author is a former Sexual Surrogate and is a Sex therapist, which means she would teach couples how to please each other (at times by demonstration lol) and later became a therapist herself. 

Although at first glance it just looks like a book about sex and positions, she really talks about a lot more.  While reading it I realized that being a "bad girl" is more about how you perceive yourself and less about your actions, its about embracing your inner sex kitten, and being okay with that..

With chapters titled like "Bad girls feel good about being bad", "Bad girls dress the part", and "A Bad girl knows her body" (and many more) she basically encourages and inspires every woman to release her inner bad girl.  Don't get me wrong, she does get into detail about actual sexual acts, and is very descriptive, which is great, but she does it in a way that says "this is normal and you are totally sexy no matter how this ends up" if that makes sense...

I recommend that every woman go out and grab this book, and even men, if you spot this in Barnes and Noble, I would flip through the pages, you never know what you might learn ;-)

I will try to post some little excerpts and some of my fav parts soon in another post...

Have any of you read a book like this? How do you feel about reading such a book?

Eat Out.. the basics

There is very little mystery about a penis, its self explanatory and any woman with common sense and a little spit can figure out how to give head... or so I've been told.. but a woman's body is a little more complex and its not quite as easy for men to provide GOOD HEAD..

Oral sex performed on a female is known as cunnilingus and has been around for many years.  It was once thought of as a taboo act but has now become more popular and mainstream.

First let me begin by explaining that there are two types of women. There's the type that love getting head, and they type that never got good head.  The reason i say this is because if done correctly, whats not to love? 

In order to provide good head, you need to know the ins and outs of female anatomy.  Because men are very visual thinkers, I have a diagram. Basically you need to find the clitoris.  If you cant find her clit, please stop reading.. there's no help for you.

First, here are my warnings... I am not a man, this is written from the prospective of a woman.  I am speaking from personal experience, and a collaboration or first hand testimonies and actual research. This is in no way directed toward anyone or intended to offend anyone.

Here are my tips and suggestions:

1. Did you know that 80% of women cannot achieve an orgasm during sex unless they are on top? Those numbers don't surprise me at all because for most women, its all about the CLIT, so my first piece of advice is to pay most of your attention to that area. 
2. Start of slowly, the clitoris is a very sensitive area with a lot of nerve endings, so don't go burying your face in it like its a peach, start with your hands, survey the area and then begin licking gently. After a few minutes, she will be warmed up enough for you to dig in.
3. Leave your tongue and jaw soft and relaxed to avoid cramping, the last thing you need is to tire yourself out before she has even realized whats happening.
4. Don't neglect the rest of her body. Just because you are focusing on one area, it doesn't mean you should neglect the rest of her.  Lick all the surrounding areas and keep this in mind, Jane Austen once said "A good lovers hands never stop moving", foreplay plays a huge part in this and its important to remember that you are pleasing her whole body. Her thighs, breasts, stomach, every part of her body is waiting to be touched.
5. Its okay to enter the vagina with your tongue, its a sensitive area and it feels good on some women, but don't try to initiate tongue intercourse, the chances of providing her any kind of mind blowing pleasure out of that are slim to none. Its a great way to mix it up and add a little diversity but please don't over do it.  There's nothing worse than laying there while someone tried to literally have sex with their tongue... seriously... its awful...

6. Don't use the ABC technique.. its a popular misconception and i have heard men swear by it, but I just think its too much of a distraction.. there shouldn't be a rigid method, you should be enjoying this and so should your partner. 
7.  Don't let it get boring, use licking, sucking, and even soft nibbling through your lips to keep it exciting and add variety. Enjoy it and have fun with it and make sure she knows that your enjoying it every step of the way, be vocal, tell her she tastes great. 
8. Feel free to use your hands. Using your hands is not a bad idea, just don't be to rough, or try to penetrate her until she is well lubricated.  Remember this is not all about penetration, keep it minimal and see if she is enjoying it, its different for all women.
9. Keep a steady pace, women like rhythmical stimulation. It doesn't have to be really fast, just constant.  Follow her body and you will pick up on the subtle movement of her body. 
10. My last main tip is to play around with positions. The basic missionary style position works great but feel free to play around, everyone knows about the good ole 69, but maybe have her on all fours like you would doggie style, or lay back and have her sit over you, find what works good for you and experiment to find what you both enjoy and are comfortable with.

Now on this topic, I have tons more to say but as always, I don't want to end up writing a novel here... so what are your thoughts?